Archive | June 2013

Friday Snippets

Thank God It's Friday

Thank God It’s Friday

I don’t have so much to say, one of those weeks. It’s been a good one all together though, with a few leave days that were spent in school clearing et al. That bit was not amusing. How was yours? Mine:

WATCHING

Temptation, more like ‘not happily ever after’. I love Tyler Perry’s movies because they are a reflection of what happens in real life. The good lesson here is stick by your 80%, the 20% that looks phenomenal, most of the time *or in this case* isn’t. Wait, do you know about the 80:20 rule in life aka Pareto Principle? Google.

Admissions, gah! Admission to Princeton Uni is such a complex one. Story is based on the admission of students to the university and of course there’s some love in the air and some rule breaking. Worth a watch.

Dead man down, well-oh-well, a guy faked his death, then joined the gang that killed his family and he’s threatening the gang lead. Then while at it, a woman who wants to seek revenge corners him. Definitely worth a watch.

21 and over and hangover 3, stupidly funny comedy. Okay, they didn’t like totally crack us up, just a few laughs here and there but we still managed to watch them to the end. Ever watched project x? if you liked it, you’d like the former.

LOVING

The fact that I am finally Graduating. It’s been a long time coming, not quite, but finally! Campuses are not places you want to live in unless you’re the nutty professor.

LISTENING TO

Silence. Kidding. Nothing at the moment though, re-watching a movie in the background so that I don’t concentrate on it while doing this post.

READING

Blogs! There are interesting people on here. Here, here, here and there, among others. Sometimes I find myself being linked from one blog site to another, next thing I know I’m somewhere on the internet I can’t remember…lol so there’s too much to read.

EATING

Some mouth-watering lamp chops with cheese and mint. A random dinner plan at Peppers thanks to the boyfriend. One year down the line, this tummy has got to be fed with yummy foods. The greens on top make it look almost ‘very’ healthy.

Lamp Chops

LOOKING FORWARD TO

Graduation *woop woop* not as excited as I think I should be but let’s see when the day gets here. Maybe that’s where the spark is.

SAVING FOR

When’s pay day again? LOL this relying on a salary is not a cool thing. To side hustles and becoming entrepreneurs I’m serious.

PLANNING FOR

What next? Yeah, sounds vague but I choose to believe that now I will have lots of time, hopefully, I should think up of things to do then. As in no more school or things related for now.

THINKING OF

How one year has just been whisked away? I have dated for one year people. Hehe I know, I know. I feel like that should be in my resume already, now that my friends didn’t have so much hope in me. Was I that unserious? I remember his cousin brother was giving us 6 months to affirm that we’re seriously dating. Thank God I found my cheesy mate. You know that guy that every girl would want for herself, yeah that guy … to many more.

To more laughing, living and loving. Let your weekend be nothing short of interesting, blessings!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Friday Snippets

graduation

Thank God It’s Friday

It’s been an amazing week. The results finally got out and I’m on that graduation list *woop woop* couldn’t have been more excited! So by next week Saturday I will officially have a Master of Business Administration Degree in Strategic Management!

WATCHING

Absolute Deception, just like the name says, it was an absolute deception. A widow decides to investigate the dead husbands business deals with the help of some detectives. While at at it they start being followed by the enemies and it’s just intriguing. You’ve got to watch it. The Call, this one stressed me…whaaat! It’s about the call centre for 911, and how they receive distress call but this one was for a serial killer…let’s just say it keeps you glued and get’s you really pissed but it ends, well,  in an interesting way.

LOVING

God! For the strength and wisdom to finish my Masters even before the due time. Did it in 1 and a half years instead of 2. I also don’t know how I did it that fast, of course there’s the working hard bit, but I did. I believe I did my part and God definitely did his too.

LISTENING TO

Dj Protoge and Joe Mfalme’s radio mixes and they’re just it! Got them here.

READING

My mind is not yet settled on reading again…lol So any interesting, inspiring or relevant read that’s not too long for my liking that comes my way. These are mainly in the form of blog posts.

EATING

Ugali and pork. This meal was prepared by the boyfriend, it was delicious to tears. No lies. I wasn’t a big fan of pork, but now … top of the list.

Food - Pork

LOOKING FORWARD TO

The weekend and my graduation day next weekend.

SAVING FOR

The sunny days! These cold days, I just want to stay indoors, cuddle, keep warm, watch a movie. It’s like my brain stops and all I can think of ways are to keep warm and when the sun will ever come out for me to play.

PLANNING FOR

Work. I need some structure and I am building it, one step at a time.

THINKING

About life. How we plan and how it turns out. Sometimes it works according to our plan, then some other times it just sets us off a little or in a big way  to show us that in as much as we have control of our life, God is the one in control. We do forget, I do forget. It’s not all just in our hands alone, there’s definitely a higher power. You know kinda like the puppet and the puppeteer. For me, it’s God. I love that I believe in his existence even if I have never seen him.

To more laughing, living and loving. Let your weekend be nothing short of interesting, blessings!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Of Friendships

Friends

Friends for a moment, friends for a season, friends for a lifetime.

“Just like a nice assortment of chocolates friends come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, personalities, backgrounds, religions, and cultures. You never know what you are going to get sometimes as you navigate your way through your box. There are many different friendships to tantalize the “friendship palate”.” Source

Friendship is a thing I believe that’s quite the big deal in our lives, although people like me try to down play it. We’ve called people our friends, best friends, best friends forever and the likes. For you to brand someone that, it’s because there’s something about them that you want to be associated with. There’s something about them that makes you want them to be a part of your life. There’s that saying that goes something like; “with family, you don’t choose, you’re given, but with friends, you have the free will to choose”. So your friends are somewhat the family that you choose, besides your God-given family.

As we grew up, my parents had their friends who we used to visit and used to visit us every so often. They would bring their kids over, or we would go to theirs, have parties and sleep overs. I didn’t know whether we were related or not and didn’t bother to know. As far as we were concerned my parents friends were our uncles, aunties and their kids our cousins. Somehow through my parents, they became like part of our family. You’d be surprised that if you asked me to name my real aunties, uncles and cousins and the family friends feature heavily in that list. There are some of whom I came to realize that we’re not related as late as this year.

Friendship is not a thing that we can just ignore, because like relationships they pretty much define us. It’s those people you communicate with, you socialize with, you hang out with. Those people who challenge you, who you share with your ideas, those people who level you up when you’re a tad unbalanced or irrational, those people who plant your feet back to the ground when your head is busy floating in the sky. They are special people. Not everyone can tolerate you, but friends somehow manage to. Friends are those people who could have talked about you behind your back but instead choose to tell you, because you’re their friend. They are those people who when you get that “can the earth open up and eat me up” feeling, they go ahead to show that their would be a void in their lives if that ever happened, and they help you try to solve the problem at hand.

Friends may not necessarily have all the money in the world to stand by you financially, they could not necessarily be the most connected people to help you get who and what you want, but they are the people with the biggest hearts. You’ve got to love hearts, because they’re not material. The mind could be, it could make you think of all the good things and bad things, but the heart is genuine and what it offers cannot be measured quantitatively. It doesn’t consider what one has and what one doesn’t have, it just goes for who that person is. It accepts the person as is, and strives to be there for them, help them be a better them, give them hope when all seems bleak.

Remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs? I know friendship is somewhere up there in the hierarchy, but it almost also feels like a physiological need (the most basic need). A basic need that you shouldn’t have too much of, because I mean you just need enough of it to satisfy your needs, ain’t it?  So you don’t have to have a million friends. How would you even meet the needs of each one of those or vice versa? You would get so overwhelmed that idea of friends would infuriate you. If you really think about it, you find that those people who actually call your their friends or you call your friends are a handful. The rest, probably are just acquaintances or you know, something like part of your network.  Those, you’ve got to have many, millions so to say. People you think of because a situation has come up,  you need something from them or they just happened to cross your path. No? You’ve got to love all this people, they won’t necessarily always be there for you when you need them (and are not obliged to) but they sure do make the world a better place by all means. Someone may not be your friend, but they could be part of your network. I think that’s where we have a hard time drawing the line, then feel cheated when the network doesn’t play the friends role.

Also, some friends do have terms, unfortunately. Maybe that’s how it’s drawn up by the creator. There are those for a moment, a season or a lifetime. Life happens somewhere midway and those friends that you thought you will have forever somehow vanish. It could be as simple as slipping away as a result of distance, difference in lifestyles and so on or as dramatic as difference in opinions, arguments and fights over, for or against something. When the term for a friendship comes to a close, most of us find it difficult to let go *guiltily raises hand*. In essence, letting go could be the best decision you could make as a friend. It’s a loving thing to do when you see it’s not working out. Instead of dragging them along, just let it be. Things do change, people do change, friendships do change. It’s normal and less burdening, I figure. Then there are those who are there for a lifetime, I live for those. Isn’t it great when you meet someone or people you can grow with, have disagreements and different opinions but still agree or have level ground, have distance between you but still connect in every way and in future let them into your children’s life and have them confuse them for family! Dang!

I think the thing with friendships based on my observation is more of “just let it flow”. When it doesn’t work, let it be, when it works, let it be. Whatever the case, having a friend is a blessing from the almighty to us. After all, what would life be without them? Treasure them, love them.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Friday Snippets

moonlight, sunshine

Thank God It’s Friday

This week, I’m either stalking the moon or vice versa. I don’t mind seeing the moon (be it gibbous, quarter, crescent or full) everyday though as I do that short walk to the house, it makes me thoughtful. It looks so pretty up until it’s covered by the clouds. This happens so suddenly, you see me now, now you don’t “peek-a-boo”. I love the light moon illuminates though, especially the full moon. You know when you wake in the middle of the night and you think you’d left your lights on only to figure it’s the moonlight. Beautiful huh? Made me think of that song “Ain’t no sunshine”, the moonlight can be that moment, you know that moment when you feel like there ain’t no sunshine, then all over sudden there’s some ray of light hope, almost signifying sunshine that comes along.

WATCHING

I got a couple of movies from my distributor guy the other day. We haven’t gotten ourselves time to watch them yet, it’s been one week with short evenings. By the time I am thinking of a movie/series I have already blacked out. In the pack was House of Cards, Absolute Deception, Telling Joy among others. Will give a short description whether it’s worth watching once done.

Oh, watched Crazy Kind of Love. It’s about a broken family, where one of the sons (or both…lol) fall in love with a care free girl who’s also from a broken home but she helps them into regaining their mojo. It was almost boring but soldiered on to the credits.

LOVING

My blog readers. Especially when I find out you read my blog and have a thing or two to say, the joy in my heart is indescribable. Considering this is one thing I do out of the love of doing it, it’s to say the least very humbling. A big shout out to one Mr.Kabue James on his theme for #LovingLife and #CelebratingPeople

LISTENING TO

Some Afro House Music Mix from MixCloud, energy galore! Makes me want to put my hands in the air, bump my head and sway!

READING

Random blog posts which I land on. It’s amazing how different bloggers’ have different writing styles. It’s this diversity that makes it all the more interesting. It’s like you’re delving into someone’s mind for a moment and you can feel what they’re feeling.

EATING

Craving what I had for break fast last weekend. I’m not into pastries but the egg & cheese croissant, yummers! With some cold shake or juice to go with.

Breakie

LOOKING FORWARD TO

Getting done and dusted with Grad school and graduating. I am done with it in terms of course work and defence of the thesis. Funny enough the difficulty is not in those, it’s in the back and forth with the lecturers doing corrections for the final thesis document binding and the University protocols that just want make you to finally get over and done with it.

SAVING FOR

A bed for my other bedroom. Currently, if I am to accommodate a friend, the couch or the carper will be your friend for the night and we don’t want that now, do we. Comfort at its best.

PLANNING FOR

When I used to hear planning and I think wow planning is such a big word. Like you have to plan for big stuff, that it should be in the form of a budget, with a list of tasks/things to be done written down. Fortunately, I started thinking of it as a way of life. I am planning to just have a chilled out weekend. Eat, sleep, watch TV, hang out.

THINKING

I have just been invited to guest write *woop*. Then the excitement dies out when I don’t know what to write about. It has to be something around love, dating and relationships. So what would you want me to write about? It’s easier being told what you want to hear, then I write about it. It’ll be more candid than me thinking of what I should write.

To more laughing, living and loving. Let your weekend be nothing short of interesting, blessings!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Crossing the Bridge

Do you ever find yourself getting worried or anxious about later, about tomorrow, about the future? Like you don’t know what will happen next, where and when you’ll get this to do that, whether whatever it is will work out or not and if it does or doesn’t then what next? I do. I think I’ve always gotten worried or anxious about most things in my life, at least from when I started fending for myself. Before I guess the only thing that really used to get me worried sick (okay not so) were exams. Now there’s a lot of stuff to think about, besides exams. Like how to get bread and butter on my table, all of which are not free, including the table. Funny how even when I should be rejoicing about a certain achievement, somewhere in the far off corner of my mind, there’s that black pitless hole that keeps blocking that faculty that should get rid of any anxiety or worry. Just when I tell myself, “cross that bridge when you get there”, the hole, swallows it up and out of the blues am thinking, a few weeks from now, one month from now, 5 years from now.

Cross the Bridge

You know how you can be driving on a road, actually let me give you an ideal example. We used to live in Lower Kabete and just right before Spring Valley there was a valley oh wow duh, yeah and it almost looked like a bridge with those sideline thingies. However, they were dented and had fallen out parts of the sideline poles either due to old age or accidents. For me, that was my black spot. Every time I’d think that we’re going to pass there every bad thought that could cross my mind did. Like what if we have an accident and plunge into the river, drown and die *cringe*. Of course that never happened, but those thoughts used to totally cloud my mind. For a very long time. Then at one point because I had now gotten used to passing there and nothing happening, I got over that phobia. It became pointless being anxious or worried about it. It became my favorite road actually to the point I thought I could drive with my eyes closed that remains a thought

Now comes life, the same thing happens. We get so anxious and worried about so many things, even things that we shouldn’t burden ourselves with. Of course it’s good to take precaution and all for the future. Like work towards making it as comfortable as possible. Yet again tomorrow shouldn’t be our worry as long as we are doing what we’re supposed to do today in the best of our ability. Ain’t it? Aren’t you jealous of the birds? How they fly around so carefree and perch wherever they feel like even at your porch. I guess it’s because their main worry is how they are going to get through their day. They build nests like everywhere they go and I’m pretty sure building a nest is not an easy job as well. If only birds could speak and tell us their story. But I like how they travel light, no worry at all, just let it be. You should see my handbag now, you’d think I’m carrying stones in it. Living by the scouts motto, be prepared. You carry for if ‘this and that’ happens. Or if I’m travelling and I pack everything in doubles, just in case (I see you there, you do the same huh?)

worry, anxiety, birds

Sometimes I don’t want to worry or be anxious about tomorrow, but then again I’m just human. I think we have an inbuilt the “be anxious and worry” function. At least I have come to realize that when I find myself feeling that way, I tell myself, “the bridge is too far to worry about it, let’s deal with it when we get there”. That bridge might be a strong one, enough to hold you and all your problems then. But if you worry about it today, there’s nothing you’re really changing about that bridge…makes a bit of sense no?

Today already has enough problems of its own that when you start foreseeing the problems that are yet to come, we miss the good things and opportunities that today has to offer.

Having a good week so far? It’s already half month, wow! Have a good one. A silent prayer for all those friends who’ve lost their loved ones, who are unwell or have a close friend or family member that’s unwell, and those that are just sad for one reason or another. May God bless y’all.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Friday Snippets

Running Time

Thank God It’s Friday

I think my mind is having a couch potato moment. You know where you have things to write about in your mind but your body is not cooperating with what your mind is feeling. In short, the writing doesn’t quite happen. Then funny thing is how time flies. By the time I’ve gotten to the office I realize it’s already 1:00pm then all of a sudden it’s 4:30pm. When I get home, it’s already 10:00pm. I lay my head to sleep, and the alarm is already buzzing it’s 6:30am. Where’s this time running to or am I the one running away from it?

WATCHING

Remember Sunday (of love and loss of memory. The dude has to fall in love with the lady everyday and the lady has to bear with it…oh love), Side effects (you want to know how someone can pretend, wow, watch this one. It’s unbelievable). House of Lies, this is one interesting management series, tells you all about consultancy and the lies it holds. But hey, who doesn’t want to be a consultant,  it’s in my future plans for sure. Oh plus being a lecturer or a professor you can mark my words here already.

LOVING

The boyfriend. We have been dating for almost 1 year now *ululations*. It closes in this month. I remember my friend counting months for me, like “I’m giving you 6 months, then I’ll know that you’re serious”, of course I was.  It’s a roller coaster but you know how a roller coaster goes. It’s a never ending cycle, always gives you the thrill despite its ups and downs and I never want to step out of this one. It’s quite the fun ride, actually my favorite. My muse!

Love is a decision. It’s not a feeling because feelings get messed up. Sometimes that person you consciously know you love can drive your feelings up the roof and they don’t get back for hours or even a couple of days. But because you love then, you decide that despite them messing up with your feeling, it’s much more than that and you want them there with you, always.

LISTENING TO

Pod casts given by Pastor Bob Coy. Do you love preachings? Go look for them. Do you hate preachings? go look for them. He knows how to cut across the message to everyone and relate it to the bible without sounding so spiritual or religious, if you know what I mean. He relates the bible to life and how we live. He hits the nail on the head, like tells you what you don’t want to hear. It’s amazing.

READING

Still Paulo Coelho – Aleph. Since when did I become such a bad reader. There were days I would read a book in 3 days or less. Now, it’s a whole week or 2 and well, I’m not even mid-way. Bad manners right?

EATING

Some cold fruity milkshake (Yummers! The thought). I don’t really care the flavour right now (but of course not anything chocolate or coffee flavoured).

LOOKING FORWARD TO

Something very random. I don’t know what exactly, but I know I’m game for, oh well, anything that will make me have a good time by all means.

SAVING FOR

Curtains, yes curtains. I think it’s about time I got curtains to match my “colour scheme”. Don’t be surprised, it’s not purple or pink. It’s actually orange and brown. I can be somewhat unpredictable sometimes.

PLANNING FOR

Well not planning per se, but I’ve been blogging for almost 4 years. How I have been able to do that, I don’t know. I think it’s the fact that I feel compelled to share. I am glad that I haven’t reached a point where I want to hang my boots and I hope I will never reach that point. I love this sport.

I like that I am confident in what I do even when I don’t know what will really come off it despite wanting to inspire, impact or influence someone through this. Maybe that’s where the plan should come in right? Yeah, that’s what I’m planning for now…lol

THANKING

How I am a really poor multi-tasker. Is it a skill that’s acquired in future? I think I’m the only woman who’s bad at it. Like if I always find myself concentrating on one thing, putting my mind into it and being oblivious of other things going on. Although I can also be a scatter brain, but poor multi-tasker rules the day. I’m yet to find out whether it’s a bad or good thing.

To more laughing, living and loving. Let your weekend be nothing short of interesting, blessings!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

The Farm Visit

I had been going on about how I couldn’t wait to go to the farm and see the current developments. To visit, we did. Although my baby sister pulled out, it was an awesome trip all together. Got to hang out with the parents, get some tips from them as with regard to our responsibilities and all. Which I thought was quite important because the main reasons parents work so hard is to make sure that their offspring lives comfortably truth? When they’re doing all this good work, they expect that the offspring (children, in-laws, grand children) will be able to manage that which they have worked so hard for when they’re not there or when they are and not as able as they are now.

I felt like that was what the trip was about. It was about exposure to what my parents have put their blood and sweat in to. To show us that this is ours and yours. It’s our responsibility to make sure that we manage it well, after all it’s ours and we’re the one to reap the benefits from it. I love parental advise, especially advise that makes me become a better person and know a little more about myself, my family and what they expect of us. It’s always an eye opener and makes me look into the future. You know more like give you hinted on how to connect the jig saw pieces of the puzzle.

Farm visit

Farm visit

The farm is like a maze, hence the name. It felt like one especially now that they’ve made a makeshift entry. Yeah we grow miraa (aka khat) among other things in the farm. You can see the mode in which they are transported and the speed is insane, you’d think they’re transporting some extremely delicate produce. Those drivers have a rally of their own every few hours so woe unto you if you’re on their way, they’re worse than psv drivers. They can really harass a driver, the tailing, overtaking, flash lights. Then there’s my aunties duck. The thing that crossed my mind when I first saw it was “duck face”. That made me attempt to do it, and whoever started this “duckface” pose is a winner. Is it that it makes one look prettier or what?

Farm Visit

Farm Visit

If there’s one person who loves taking and being taken photos, it’s mother dearest and me of course by virtue of being her daughter. Her genes were pretty strong…lol. So we did some (ok, I’ve lied, a lot) selfies as we bonded and toured “the maze” and viewed the other developments. She’s an amazing tour guide, she knows her agriculture. It was so cold and windy that I only keep my coat off for the duration of the snap shot. My dad was having his chit-chat time with the elders, you always have to be in their right books there. I suppose that’s for every culture, no?

Farm Visit

Farm Visit

I had a photo session with the goat…haha. It kinda smiled and came a little closer to pose for it, and no, I am not kidding. I thought goats were afraid of people, not this one. Kept my distance though, I’m not that animal or pet friendly. That includes cats and dogs, I don’t see myself ever owning pets (I hope the boyfriend is reading this), they freak the hell-out-of me. The following day, breakfast was special, porridge. I haven’t taken porridge in ages, that’s what happens when you live alone, there are some things you just don’t cook. Only mothers can make you take this for breakfast, but it was yumm!

I also had some time to snack, read and listen to music. As I say, “some food for the tummy, mind and lots for the soul“. If you’re feeling low for some reason, this can be a good lift-me-up. Kind of works for me. That was my weekend in a nutshell. This was the main lesson learnt after meeting my parents friends while at the farm and hearing them talk about their kids. The pride they carry around because of you is unbelievable, sometimes, that is what gives them every reason to smile and feel alive.

Proud Parents

Hope your week is closing in well? Thank God for life today because there are some who didn’t manage to see this week. My prayers go to our family friends who lost their mum. Life is short, let’s live it out to the best of our ability.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*