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26. Tips the Scale.

My new catch phrase for things Birthdays. I have been writing this post in my head for a while now. It’s that time of the year once again, when I tip the scale up 1 year and getting much closer to the year when the biological scale apparently starts working. But that shouldn’t worry me just yet. I thought of what my birthday wish list would look like, and it was such a task, I’d look too needy. So I decided to imagine from the top of my mind,  26 things I’d want to achieve and acquire this new year:

1.

I want to learn how to bake, grill and everything else an oven can do. Because, I have never really made good use of one. All of my food is pan-fried or sufuria cooked. I would like my family to enjoy some really good foods on the weekends.

2.

A blender, there’s an overload of ripe fruits in the market that need their juices squeezed. I think I would play a good role at that if only I had a blender.

3.

Be an adorable girlfriend to my boyfriend that’s if I’m not already *wink*.

My Birthday Mate.

My one & only handsome birthday mate. Happy Birthday Love.

4.

Keeping people dear to me much closer.

5.

A fancy phone cover for the Xperia V.

6.

Play around with my house design from furniture to curtains to placements – comfort is my mantra and funky what I want to achieve.

7.

Learn anything and everything content related – and just be good at it while at it.

8.

A vacay – I could almost see myself sipping something on some beach somewhere. But that’s for later, I haven’t accumulated enough leave days yet.

9.

Host a party. We just have to look for a reason.

10.

A card holder for my cards. I got my batch of nice cards and well I they’re still in the boxes.

cards

Woop!

11.

Get more suits for work. Yes, I adjusted and embraced it. Now I’m all suited up for the week.

12.

Continue the spirit of gifting.

13.

Think outside the box, always. Sometimes I get closed up in the box, but I would do great with outside the box.

14.

Write and write away, and hope it leads me somewhere.

15.

Inspire someone, even one person with each post I make (more like “every move I make” haha).

16.

New friends. The new ones I have made, have been nothing but amazing.

17.

To get a music system for house. Can you imagine I don’t own one. And yes, I love music. It’s just never been a priority.

16.

To grow, grow , grow. Of course not in KG’s, but out of my comfort zone.

17.

I want to go with my folks upcountry more often. I rarely do, but they’re fun to hang out with.

18.

To be a better big sister to my baby sister, I think I could do better than I am.

19.

Get or make something functional every month, no matter how small it is, as long as it is, as long as it is saving me time and effort.

20.

Try consolidate my best of everything. Have you ever been asked what is your best movie? and you’re left with a blank look because you’ve never really thought about it. It seems those are the kind of questions everyone asks nowadays.

21.

I need dresses. I don’t own any sun/hangout/office dresses. I have one tailored dress and I think 2 maxi dress. It’s for shame.

22.

Now that all my close friends are either married, in the process of getting married or talking marriage. I should start thinking forward and make imaginary plans like when I want to get married, how my dress will look, what theme colors I want, my gift list (like that washing machine I saw in Nakumatt and I can’t afford it yet…lol), my bridesmaids e.t.c.

23.

Let every experience be a lesson and not a feeling like I have failed. I think so far, I’ve tried to practice that.

24.

Eat my own baked cake on our next birthday. I’d better know how to because y’all will get a stomach ache if I don’t know how to.

25.

To declare God’s incredible blessings over my life, because I am blessed beyond measure.

26.

26 was a good year. So many good things happened to me. Some so big that the impact made me numb and all I can do is appreciate and make sure that I give those tapped opportunities my best.

27.

Have fun. Live life. Learn Lessons. Laugh at anything that deserves a good laugh.

Happy Birthday to all my #TeamAquarius people, To Kare, a special shout out to you, Happy Birthday babe. Let’s make this one memorable in our own special way. Lot’s of love, peace and light in your lives. God bless you richly.

Signing off ~~~ *Kawi*

February Favorites

We are allowed to extend our birthdays to the month, ain’t it? So that I can still say it’s my birthday month. Sometimes you have to look for ways to still remain the centre of attention even after your happy birthday haha trust me say that ADD much.  We’re just 9 days in to it but this is more of my birthday update. What I was up to. Am sure there’s some curious on lookers. This goes to my mental journal as my best birthday. Just how I’d imagined it. I am not much of a party person (okay that’s a big lie, I am sort of, but for special events, I prefer small and intimate).

February, Favorites

  1. He came to pick me up as I was working on that day and I planted a BIG kiss on his cheek *read lips* to tell him Happy Birthday. I’m being very modest here…lol
  2. I heart this girl. One of my closest friends.
  3. The boyfriends cousin and friend. And boy they have mastered the art of eating the “all you can eat meat”. While us the normal people were having see-saw moments with our tummies because of how full we were, they were still doing meat rounds.
  4. What’s a birthday without a cake?
  5. When stuck in traffic, and it’s your birthday, you can pull of such poses. No one will judge you.
  6. Whoever thought I would share the same birthday with the boyfriend and we will blow candles the same time. Never in my wildest dreams. I think I was too excited I forgot to make a wish. I will get used to it with time. On that note, it will always be 2 candles because if we were to put as many as our ages combined…hehe we would be eating candle wax instead.
  7. My close friend was getting married the day after our birthday (02/02/2013). So happy for her, she’s like my sister from another mother.
  8. Fun times at her evening party with my close friends, double celebrations on our part…lol since we had to hold it back on 1st for her wedding on 2nd. Let loose!
  9. No goofy faces = No fun pics. That’s what we were up to right before my friend’s wedding. That’s what happens when you are too early for an event.
  10. My beloved birthday gift. I love!

What I would want for the next one:

  1. To be out of town.
  2. If in town *hmmmm thinking* we’ll have to make it worth the while. There’s a whole year to think it out and maybe just maybe surprise him.

Besides that, I love, love, loved it. Thanks for all the beautiful messages with good wishes and blessings, you made my day more than special. For again, what’s a birthday without those?

Hope you’re having a kick-ass weekend? Mine’s pretty chilled out tending more towards lazy but relaxing all the same.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

25 Going On 26

I know I’ll be too excited to do a post tomorrow, so let me do it now as it’s become sort of a tradition. Still comfortable saying my age, but now that am tipping to the other side of the scale, I think I should start learning to be discrete about it. Until say 40 when am still looking young and not anything close to it. I am 25 going on 26, I don’t know what to write *cue in that Sound of Music song*. But really, I don’t know what to write but I need to write something. Let’s see, I think I will go with the few things I figured while at the tender age of 25.

Happy Birthday

I undervalue myself most of the time. You know how others get impressed by your achievements or doings but you end up missing the point, moving on and working a lil’ harder harder for more. Yes, I do celebrate my milestones, but then the excitement is short-lived because from that milestone there’s another one that’s supposed to be achieved. As I concentrate on what needs to be achieved next, I forget that this is how far I have come from and I almost just almost have everything that I need (resource-wise) to get me going. That’s a blessing.

Relationships are molded. No relationship comes already formed and through the process, there’s those bits and pieces that need to be beaten back for it to be in shape, it’s painful but once you’re over that, it becomes beautiful. Even roses have thorns right? Basically, you have to compromise and sacrifice a few things without losing yourself though. Learn to meet in the middle and accommodate each other, know which role is played by who and respect each other while laughing, loving and living. Yes, it’s work in progress, always is. That’s being submissive.

I am very defensive of myself. Sometimes, you need to hear others out. They see you from the outside, they’re not very subjective in their opinions of you, but objective in their judgement based on how they relate to you and how they know you. That’s one thing I’m struggling with. Accepting I am wrong, even when I don’t think I am..I mean who thinks they are ever wrong? *if you agreed with me, that’s the problem right there*. That’s being humble.

Make many plans, so that even if some fail, at least you’ll have a couple of others you’ve managed to achieve. Plans are also not cast on stone, so they can change at different times of your life and in different situations. I didn’t succeed in all the plans I had set out during my age 25 tenure, others changed too, but I am content and grateful for all the ones that came to be. That’s being honest and ambitious.

26 does sound like a super year. Especially if I think of it like those read-the-future-kind-of-people, it’s a double of the year we are currently in (2013 … so 13*2 = 26). Ha ha trust me to do that, sometimes you’ve got to imagine the light of the end the tunnel before you get to it. It gives you a peace of mind. So for this year, I expect things to double for me :-) . Point in case: I would like to graduate, get a salary increase, get a pair of 6-inch heels (though I know I will almost never wear them) or better yet re-stock my shoe rack and closet, get a bigger house, save for a car, those are just but a few that I know within my control, there others that aren’t but it’s the doubling year ain’t it? at least according to the theory that I just derived.

This moment looked so far and now it’s here. Last but not least, it’s also my boyfriends birthday, yeah on the same day. I know how awkward that seems and even feels now that the d-day is here *did I just make it sound like we’re getting married?*.

I would actually like to take this moment *how I sound like am receiving an Oscar or Grammy Award…lol too many moments of sounding like something today* to tell him ↓ and that he made my 25 worth the while. I hope it’ll be the same for the many years to come. ILY to Dions!

Amazing, Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday to my fellow Aquarians, keep on keeping it real, you know how we roll. Thanking God, for giving us another year to see his goodness and share it with the rest of the world.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Happy Birthday Mum

Oh yeah today is my mum’s birthday and I’m thinking, “I had almost missed it”. I have to explain this scenario because it was hilarious. So we are in a meeting with my colleagues and we’re talking about careers and how one of my colleagues is in the medical field but she quit after some hear-wrenching experience during the 1998 bomb blast. And am here, saying how my mum is in the medical field and I think she’s been through it all but she has a deep passion for it. Basically she’s the family’s go to person when anyone has any problem health related and non-related, because she’s also a psychologist…yeah I know, she came as a full package.

So as we continue talking and am saying how I think being in the medical field is a calling, I look at the calendar on my laptop just our of the blues (1/10/2013), and I almost get a mini heart-attack…lol. Yeah, my colleagues asked me, “are you  ok, anything wrong?” and I go like, “crap, it’s my mum’s birthday and I almost forgot.” Of course I do the necessary, which in my opinion is one of my roles as a first-born. Call my dad to remind him. He never remembers any, whose dad does anyway? He deserves a trophy just for that. And here, we girls expect our boyfriends to remember every date, birthday, anniversary and so on. All the best, or just get kids (daughters) and have them be your reminders ideal solution for the men out there.

So, after making the necessary calls, I call my mother dearest. To give her the biggest hello and happy Birthday. And guess what? She had also forgotten it’s her birthday…hehe. That’s a win on my part, because then thank God the day had not passed and she won’t catch a feeling. So I’ll definitely make my arrangements to make her day beautiful via my sibling and dad. Then my part comes in tomorrow.

Mum, Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday Mum

She turns 55, but you would never guess that’s her age, that’s a challenge to me. That no matter how old you are just keep your heart and spirit young and that’s just how you’ll turn out. Don’t let the complexities of life pull you down or make you feel any less. You are stronger than you know. She is the most amazing woman I know, how she juggles her roles is what totally gets me. She’s a super mum, best friend, doctor, teacher, nanny, chef, care taker, organizer, super wife and the list goes on.

I am who I am today because of the disciplines and lessons she has instilled in me and I thank God everyday for her. I hope she lives to see me and my sister get married and have kids, so that she can be able to take care of them just like she does us. I hope and pray that the clinic she is starting up, which is her current dream and desire, comes up, starts running and she can reach out to the community at Kahawa Wendani. Oh, if you live in that area, you’ll have the best clinic in your neighborhood, will let you know when you can start visiting.

Otherwise, this is the woman who means the world to me, Cla (baby sister) and my dad. Yeah, life would be upside down without you. You should see how everyone gets jittery when you say you have to travel, even if it’s for a few days. I hope I get to be half the woman you are when I become a mom sometime. I love you!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

201,082 Thanks

Since I want my ego pampered sometimes, okay. who am I kidding, like all the time. I know am not the best bloggist,  for lack of a better word, just avoiding writer … and shamelessly promoting myself from blogger to bloggist. You’ve got to do this things for yourself you know, I mean, who will? And the question I love to ask *rhetorical though* is what brings you back to read what I publish? Those 201,082 site visits, it could be one person always coming back, I just wonder what brings you back? And for that reason, that one person or 1,000 people who come to check what I’ve shared…a HUGE thanks, from the bottom of my heart :-)

If I didn’t have anything to say thank you for today, at least I have 201,082 thanks to say. However, am very fortunate to have the 201, 082 as an addition to the many other blessings in my life. So basically, all my thanks goes to God for making everything possible, for without him, none of these would make sense. At least he makes them <the people in my life, the achievements, the failures, the events, the outcomes and all the good and bad that comes with all these > all make so much sense.

To more publishing, to sharing of thoughts and opinions… to more sunshine in your lives through me *wink*. I think am one of the few girls who has problems with remembering very important dates, yes! So I put on reminders if it’s a slaughter me situation or keep getting mild heart attacks of whether the day has passed. But for mum, dad and sister, their birthdays and their wedding anniversary (strange enough) are super glued to my mind. Thank God by sheer coincidence Mr.Man’s birthday is on the same day as mine.

So I take advantage of such moments to celebrate since I probably missed my blogversary or not. Too lazy to go and confirm.

 

It’s Thursday, that day if you have forgotten to be thankful and truthful throughout the week, it gives you a chance. Enjoy the evening lovelies!

Signing off ~~~ *Kawi*

 

Oh! My Silver Jubilee

I’m so excited like you have no idea. Well, it’s not the sort of excitement you would see outside, because I’m excited every other time…smh! This is the one from the inside. It’s my last day being 24 and I have no complaints. The only thing that was bugging me today morning was that I already have so much assignments on the second week of school and I have absolutely no time to do them *sigh* but it’s never that serious for now.

24 has been a fairly good year, much better than 23

23 was my growing up the tough way year. Yikes, it’s the one that had me learn a couple of things and vow never ever to repeat them, ever. I didn’t know what I wanted or who I wanted. Basically a few disappointments here and there from me and from others. There’s so much I just didn’t know and in as much as I thought I did. That fact kept rubbing itself on my face by unveiling itself in situations, which in turn left me feeling so dumb. But isn’t that what growing up is about?

24 was my personal growth year. Having confidence in myself and my decisions, loving myself, looking and knowing what I want and what I don’t want, then knowing when to take off or when to hang in there. How to rely on myself, how to fight my battles … basically it was much about me, of course family and friends featured too. I got to know what role I want my friends to play in my life, that bit used to confuse me quite a lot and got me dissapointed quite a couple of times before.

In short, this year I was content with most things even when they went wrong. Being my voice of reason, I would have conversations with myself…lol. Like I would condemn myself, congratulate myself, beat myself up (okay, not literally), laugh at myself. At the end of the day, I can only be so mad at myself and that’s how I managed to keep up my smiley face :)

For my 25, I thank God someone has laid down a plan for me. So I don’t really have to think much about what I want to achieve. Considering there’s someone who’s been there done that. Looks like they know what’s important, at least after I read them, I thought so too. It made so much sense. It’s on a post called “11 Things to Know at 25(ish)” . Here goes the list :

  1. You Have Time to Find a Job You Love
  2. Get Out of Debt and Stay Out of Debt
  3. Don’t Rush Dating and Marriage
  4. Give Your Best to Friends and Family
  5. Get Some Counseling
  6. Seek Out a Mentor
  7. Be a Part of a Church
  8. Find a Rhythm for Spiritual Disciplines
  9. Volunteer
  10. Feed Yourself and the People You Love
  11. Don’t Get Stuck

Maybe you should check out the link to read between the lines, so that you can understand what each of the pointers actually means. Quite some insight I got there. Some of them I was already way in, others I was like ‘ooh really, cool I can try that out’. So looks like I have my goals set for this year. Those 11 are quite a handful now, let’s deal with them first.

To all the other Aquarius babies. Happy Birthday babes and bro’s have an awesome and may God bless you much.

New learnt wordQuid pro quo who knew this? say the truth  *I tell you things, you tell me things*

Song of the day: When was the last time you listened to Bon Jovi? Well this song “(You Want To) Make A Memory” was my song of the day. Which basically means, it’s the song I massacre by replaying quite a couple of times in the day.

Terrific Tuesday it is, enjoy it!

Signing Off ~ *Kawi*

When Christmas Comes

It’s that beautiful time of the year once again, that we all look forward to in a not so obvious maybe very obvious way. You know the whole festivities going on, the excitements, the off days, the parties, the eating and sometimes the gifts too.

Personally, I love the Christmas and New Year time. Not because I have so much going, actually most of the time I usually have nothing going on. Other than the usual hanging out with family and friends. For the longest time I can remember, for me it’s a time for receiving cards from here, there and every where, watching christmas-y movies and cartoons, cooking, eating, going to church and lots of loving and giving. I love buying gifts for my family and seeing the look on their faces as they unwrap them.

We’re rarely on the move, which I enjoy in a way. I don’t like the whole hustle, though I wish to go for vacay some time and see what the big deal is usually, and maybe change the monotony of just chilling out, but considering I love being a lazy bum during such days…hehe, I sure hope I can handle what I wish for. Actually this is what I wish for <check this out> this I can definitely handle. Oh my! Isn’t that place out of this world. I think I should create a savings account and name it ’2014 Christmas’, I’ve always had a thing for 2014, but anyway. Oh my again, I’m still trying to figure out where that is, you know wishes and prayers need to be specific and in case it’s answered, I / we assuming I shall not be trotting alone need to know how to get there…LOL

So it’s that time for celebrating the birth of Christ, singing jingles and everyone getting all up in your space asking you what you’re up to :p So in case you ain’t feeling it this time round, just use it to let the people who mean something to you know that you think the world of them. It’s also Jesus’s birthday, and he’s all about good tidings, love, forgiveness, sharing and caring, getting together  and all good things, you might as well make sure you celebrate it with him, pretty sure he’s usually at yours, plus he’s that guy watching over us throughout the year.

And here’s my official Christmas Song … AWESOME. I think Mariah Carey and John Legend was just the perfect “Christmas” musical combination.

Because this Christmas time get together
It’s gonna be so nice, better than ever
Because this gift of love lasts forever
The Lord makes our hearts open up soon as Christmas comes
It’s gon’ be alright when Christmas comes

Oh, jingle all the way, oh what fun, mmm

And we gon’ reminisce about the good old days
And we gon’ laugh together as the children play
And through the years is always gonna be this way
Come what may

QUOTE OF THE DAY

“A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.” ~ Paulo Coelho

Christmas is not as much about opening our presents as opening our hearts. Merry Christmas my good people’s, have an AWESOME one wherever you’ll be. Pretty sure you’ll do, sometimes it’s all in the head. So, to having fun, living, laughing and loving!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

New Favorite Month *November*

Yes, November is my now new favorite month. I just discovered my awkward, most unexpected firsts happened in November. I make it sound like it’s a list, but they are just very few. Okay it’s just two, don’t get too excited. And I will say at least three special things I’ve learnt from them.

Moving Out

Who would’ve ever thought, at least I didn’t. Let me let you in on my thoughts when I was living with my folks. I used to think that I will be whisked off their house by my prince charming and into ‘our’ house (I blame all those cartoons and Disney movies). I never thought I will pay rent for myself, think about what I’m going to eat for supper or when I’ll get my house and laundry cleaned up, fill it up or not have to ask for permission or alert them that I’m going out.

Then the unexpected or rather “not thought of” expected came and my parents were moving to their house a bit too far from town. Guess who had to look for house…clueless about it. (This would make an awesome series by the way…LOL). The whole process was just … for lack of a better word, new! Described here.  The 3 things that I’ve learnt in that one year from this experience:

Independence

How to be able to rely and fend for myself. Of course no one wants to go back running to mum and dad every other time, I wouldn’t want to. This was a chance to show them that this little girl they brought up has got it and their efforts never went to waste.

Balance

Home, Work, School, Fun … Life. This time round, you have your freedom, no one’s monitoring you, so you really have to be mature about it. Screw up one of them and you are fucked. disclaimer: that was a french word.

Responsibility

Yes, it comes with a tonne full of responsibilities;  from managing your finances, thinking about the future… it could be the near or far future, taking care of yourself. Let’s just say, you are on your own and you need to survive … while at it you still need your smile and laugh.

Blogversary

I started blogging 2years ago, at this particular time. I’m not so good with dates, except birthday days of people who would slaughter me if I forgot, point in case my baby sister. I have come so far, who thought I would ever write this much? I have discovered I ask this question a lot, but really, who would’ve thought? it’s supposed to come out as rhetorical though.

I can be a mouthful, I always have an opinion and try make it known — blonde or bright, the blog was a channel to just bring it out uninterrupted. And it’s worked wonders, it’s my therapy! So the few things I’ve learnt are:

Consistency

Yes, this was a tough nut to crack. Blogging ain’t as easy as it looks, especially if you have many other things that bog you down by the end of the day. Thinking and putting down your thoughts becomes a challenge, but since I started, I might as well keep going. I have had that feeling, where I go to someones blog expecting something’s up and zilch…and I go back with a sad face. That right there, is my inspiration to be consistent for those guys who are my regulars *wink*

This is where I started trying to figure out what stupendoustidbits is about!

Passion

At least in my list of what I love doing, I can proudly add “Blogging” and I have something to show for it. How cool is that? When I was younger than I am, that is, I never knew what my talent was and when someone asked me, I would come up with something from the top of my head … like singing (note that I can’t really sing alone, only in a choir with supporting voices…lol). Then I grew up and now I can say something real or substantial.

Expression

I can say this and that … what I feel, what I don’t feel, what I’m thinking, what I’m attempting not to think. Basically, it is my medium, I can speak in parables and be me, from mind to fingers.

I would really love to try to do some “Do It Yourself” posts. Seen some and for some reason I now feel like going for some tailoring classes…lol

New things to come

I hope I will be talking bigger things in future, like; finished my masters, published a book, travelled across the world, got married blah blah blah. For now that’s it, getting to where I am today for me is one HUGE step. So I still want to grow into something way bigger and better.

Ya’ll can drink to all that … more like a toast to me yeah, sometimes I can be so full of myself. No? And that’s a few of the reasons why  November rocks already. Have an awesome new month and strive to do new challenging stuff.

Finally, from the guys who kept me entertained most of all my childhood. With all the cartoons, animations and movies … they helped develop my mind when I wasn’t busy playing with other kids —> Quote of the day courtesy of Walt Disney.

May this month be a blessing to you. All you have to do is just believe and do your thing to the best of your ability.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*