Week Starter…

We all go through stuff. Yes, we all have issues, doesn’t matter the magnitude they come in, could be the smallest or the biggest but an issue is still an issue. Some similar to other people’s, some that make you feel God just picked you out of everyone else and decided it’s you against the world, some that you would rather just keep to yourself, others that make you want to just retreat and say ‘enough is enough’. What rules despite these issues, is that you’re still alive.

They haven’t killed you. Unless you let them, because you could be alive on the outside but dead in the inside. So just brave them and let them know who’s in control. You always are. That’s what gives you the upper hand. Just that sometimes, you let go of that control role and leave it to the issues and they eat you up. That’s what issues are supposed to do, so they’re doing their job right. How about you? Are you doing yours right? Because you’re supposed to make sure that you manage and control those issues. At the end of the day, you’re supposed to starve them, be strong even when they weigh you down, smile even when they cramp your happiness, raise up and dust yourself even when you feel like you can’t do this any more. You can!

Hence, the phrase ‘what doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger’. As long as your issue hasn’t killed you or you haven’t let it, it’s your way.  The experience is to make you stronger and smarter, so that you hopefully don’t find yourself in the same pit again or if you do, you know how to best handle it.

WATCHING

I have watched a couple of flicks but the one that totally made my day was, Being Mary Jane (Series). What you see, is what really happens. How they play out Mary Jane life, quite the typical girls struggles. It’s a tough world guys, we girls think men have it easier. Maybe not, but to get everything working out for you, you go through stuff and this one captures most.

READING

Chimamanda Ngozi”s – Americanah. Finally and I can’t get over her writing style. I love how descriptive she gets; you feel the presence of the cast, like you’re a fly on the wall. In my book, that’s an absolutely good writing skill.

EATING

I’m in food heaven, and I can never ever complain. We try to make delicious food. Good food can make a lousy day better.

Food, Cooking

LOOKING FORWARD TO

The Chase Group Foundation Charity Walk and Fun Day happening on 22nd March 2014 at Ngong Forest Sanctuary from 8am. The main aim of the walk is to raise funds to train a midwife and in turn #SaveAMum to reduce maternal mortality. Most mothers in Africa don’t have access to medical facilities during child-birth and as a result, maternal mortality is at an all time high.

Chase Group Foundation, #SaveAMum

Participate by simply registering for the Charity Walk and Fun Day. With KES 1,000, you get a T-shirt which serves as your entry ticket. You can also browse through other merchandise that would be of interest to you, buy and help #SaveAMum. Hope to see you there.

SAVING FOR

This couch I really, really, like really want. I know you’re thinking “girls!” but really, it’s so cosy and , I will get it. I’ll share the pics when I do, I’m that optimistic.

WEEK STARTER…

Even when you feel like you deserve it, don’t forget to say thank you, from the bottom of your heart.

Because, you barely do anything alone, it might seem so, but you don’t. For you to be where you are and have what you have, someone somewhere played a role. It could be that, someone checked up on you, someone encouraged you, someone went out of their way to help you, someone gave you an idea, someone gave you an opportunity, someone made you so friggin’ mad, it made you make a move in your life or someone was just there, looking up to you and they gave you the confidence to pursue whatever it is. There are many unseen actions that need to be thanked.

So, thank somebody today.

Have an amazing week now, won’t you?

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

And You let Her Go

You know that grown up feeling that overcomes you for a moment. It’s like an epiphany of sorts and you see something in different light. Something that one point you actually believed that that’s how it should be done. However, given the chance to re-think again today, you’d be like “No, how now?”. Some thoughts or opinions you had before, if revisited can give you a mini heart-attack. I don’t think it’s growing up that caused the change of heart as I’d said at the beginning, but exposure and experience. And that could be why those two are important even as you seek for jobs. Experience and exposure help influence your opinion on certain things, and that’s why…

…opinions are only valid for the duration they’re shared. They could change as soon as you put the full stop.

Anyhow, this epiphany happened as I listened to a current song that I rather like; Passenger – Let her go. Sometimes I listen to songs because of the beats, but when I see myself slowly getting the lyrics in (because I can listen to a song a million times but the lyrics don’t get in, it’s a rare disease called #ijustcantcramlyrics lol), I start to think about what it the artist is trying to bring out. Yeah, I can sing along but maybe I’m chanting illuminati, just kidding, but you know what I mean.

So as I listened on and sang along, I thought “wait a minute, what’s this guys saying?”. Makes sense from the quote “when you love something, let it go, if it was meant to be, it’ll come back, if it doesn’t, it never loved you…” Now, that doesn’t make sense to me anymore, so let me tell you a little something about love, my kind of love. Not necessarily the lover kind of love, just general love. For your family, friends and things.

Clara

You know it when you get it, and you don’t have to let go to know that you have it. Love doesn’t need proof by leaving and seeing whether they’ll (or it’ll) come back. Love just needs a few actions that express what you feel and what the other persons feels for you. Love doesn’t have seasons. Love is not like weather, it’s a constant through out the seasons. Love makes those seasons bearable. What happens within the seasons are feelings. Feelings, which are always bound to change depending on the situation you’re met with. If it’s rainy and it’s muddy and wet, you’ll hate it and wish for the sun, then when the sun is too scotchy, you’ll wish for the cold.

Love like other things in life, have rules, mostly unwritten. A few written. If you read the bible, it makes it easier for you to break the code. That’s why you’d find friends becoming (fri)enemies because of overstepping a love rule. If you disrespect me, then how do we get along? If you don’t forgive me for my shortcomings, then how do you expect this relationship to work out? If you keep my record of wrongs and keep reiterating them, that’s really annoying, just let go and move on, if you’re jealous of my achievement then how do we help each other? If you’re impatient with me, then how do we grow and be there for each other through the highs and lows?

That’s love. Don’t let her go when you love her, keep her instead. Love is about forgiveness, working it out, growing, letting go of baggage and moving on and while at it, the one thing that should stay, is that thing or that person(s) you love. Stupid, would be listening to the quotes and lyrics and letting go to see if the said person or thing will come back, even butterflies don’t. They fly away and find other places where they’ll fit in.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Life Happens

No, life is not what happens when you’re busy making plans because plans are part of what is life is about. Only problem is that the plans that we make here (on earth, that is) sometimes don’t match the plans that our maker has (or had) for us. Does that mean you don’t make plans? No, it doesn’t. It just means we make plans knowing that our plans are not the ultimate ones. That they will not necessarily turn out to be what we wanted them to be, because they sometimes could conflict with what our maker has in store for us.

*** Life happens.

Sometimes the maker’s plans, works for us and other times against us. For us, when we are successful in how we planned it out and then some more. When a simple software program made in your dorm room becomes the most sought after program in the world. When anyone purchases a device, the one program they want to install without a doubt is, Facebook (and now WhatsApp, lucky chap). His plans, they totally worked out for him. I used the most universally known example for it to make sense. Don’t we all want to be the next Mark Zuckerberg in our different capacities. A young over-achiever? Especially when it comes to your career or whatever it is your passionate about, Oprah or Gordon Ramsay among very many other, did it too.

But unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that for everyone. It’s different for each person. Everyone’s’ plan is architectured differently. You’d find that most of the people who built the software programs with Mark Zuckerberg or those that assisted in its roll out in one way or another are not on his much admired lane. They’re in different lanes; some are successful in their other ventures, others are struggling to find their breaking point, others are not there any more, others are just, well, just there.

***  Life happens.

Then there’s the complete downside of life, the loss of it. Your future could seem oh-so bright. And as you see yourself getting where you’ve always wanted to be, then your life is cut short. I have seen some friends lose life at such a tender age. You know when you have so much working out for you or in your favor. It just doesn’t make sense. Why would your maker get you to that level, then yank you out of the face of the earth before your revel in it, through accidents, terminal illnesses among other causes. Doesn’t he know that you have people who look up to you, people who love you, people who don’t necessarily love you but admire your ambitious self and people who don’t know you, but know about you and the potential you have (or had, now that you’ve been yanked out). Painful, huh?

***  Life happens.

The saddest or scariest part is that you just don’t know what happens after life happens. Even now as you live, you don’t know. You know the next thing you want for yourself, but you don’t know the next thing the maker wants from you, for you or with you. Sadly, “the world is not our home we are just passing through”. It’s not something that we’ll probably ever accept or even quite understand, but since the length of our visit is unnumbered and our time here is unknown, let’s make use of what we have and make the best out of it. Ain’t it?

“Let’s not limit ourselves :-

  • Plan like you’re living for many years and years to come that you die of old age;
  • Love like your life depends on what or who you’re loving on;
  • Learn all you can – there’s no excess learning but there’s ignorance which is not bliss;
  • Laugh when something’s funny, even when others don’t get the joke, they’re probably slow, they’ll catch up;
  • Eat healthy when you can, junk when you can’t, basically, don’t starve yourself;
  • Work hard and have some good fun while at it;
  • Dance like you’re the best even if you have two left legs;
  • Allow yourself to entertain and be entertained;
  • Treasure your family and friends, they are priceless! Always make them feel like a million bucks while you have them around and while they have you around;
  • Pamper yourself once in many whiles, because you’ll always deserve it.
  • Express yourself and stand for what you believe in, even when they don’t get you, they eventually will.”
  • Lastly, selfies will make you happy for a moment. Take a moment, take a selfie!

~ Kawiria

*** Because, that’s how life happens.

Selfies, #TeamSelfies

Selfies are good for your SUNity!

Wishing you nothing short of a blessed weekend, with a dose of SUNshine to light up your life xo!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Valentines Day’s Surprises

I was looking through my Valentine’s posts to see what I used to say on the last few ones for the few years I’ve been blogging. Honestly though, since my birthday is 2 weeks before, or thereabout, Valentines day has never been a day that I’m really keen on. It’s still Birthday month, the excitement is still there. Plus, I think it’s over rated. And so does my boyfriend.

Why?

Because, I’m of this school of thought, “if he/she doesn’t show you or display love every other day, why choose one day to do it?” That’s my reservation. I’ve always thought love is something that’s consistent, always. Whether you’re happy or mad, love is somewhere in there. It’s not a one day thing. Then again, maybe that’s the day that the world choose to acknowledge love in a loud way. With a touch of red to signify some passion of sorts, so I’m not complaining.

For me, it’s always a normal day because, well, nothing about me really changes. We’re still handling the same stuff, loving the same people, so there’s nothing to hate about the day. Besides, it’s always nice to wish someone something fun and different like #HappyValentines. I think I told everyone I talked to on phone #HappyValentines until my office desk-mate was like, what’s up with that? But, Why not that? It’s an act of kindness and concern. Ha! I’m that babe.

Anyhow, the boyfriend, who is not for all things valentines, like me. Now that we share a birthday and as mentioned above, excitement is still on board. He really surprised me. Let’s start with the part that, everyone knows I’m not a big fan of roses or anything that calls for attention, and flowers really do. They make me cringe,  feel like hiding under the table and many other things that shy people feel yes internally, I’m very shy. He’d didn’t take that too seriously, thank God, or he chose to try and see my reaction, I don’t know. But, he sent flowers over, with a card and my favorite white chocolates *slurp*.

How it unfolded: The cleaning lady came over to tell me I have a visitor. I didn’t have any meetings booked for that time of the day. So I ask her, “a dude or a chic” and she’s like “a dude” of course not in that lingo, but “a man”. Ai! And she goes like “he also has a package”. Haha, I didn’t expect a visitor and especially not one with a package. But I’m nice I really am, vanity, so I decided, “let me just go confirm that it’s Kawira not Kawiria”. People have a habit of confusing those two names.

I go to the reception, and I see a bouquet of roses, with a card and chocolates O_o. I’m not saying that my boo ain’t romantic or anything, he is. But that package, we’re not valentines people, at least not like that. I’d even let him off on such. My birthday and Christmas, those are a no brainer, but valentines, nah, that can pass. Then I see his handwriting on the card, but I still need to confirm the name and phone number, you know, just in case.

And, they were MINE! I once said I hate flowers and surprises but all that hate flew out of the window. I love flowers and surprises, from him, I more than love them. That was a super surprise. He wins!

MyV

Later on in the evening, we went for dinner at Peppers Restaurant with our friends. He was our valentine’s date, that was 4 and ½ (our little Diva) girls, with lots of good food and laughter. Nothing beats sharing that with friends, it’s a day not necessarily just for couples, but also for friends too. Show them some love, because they are all-so-deserving. Enough to call it a day perhaps because I was too full, but not to full to do an informal photo shoot at the parking lot. And that wrapped up the week. How was your day?

To make your weekend even better, here’s a link to a play list. It’s everything … for a pop & R&B head like me! You can try the 2014 one after.

Have an amazing weekend. Lot’s of love, light & peace from the person behind the screen.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

What Do You Really Want?

I was talking to a friend yesterday and while we were at it, we had a meeting of beliefs. I tend to believe, you speak, write or think what you desire. Because first, God listens, second, the world, through its technicalities, conspires for you to achieve it. It’s not necessarily immediate, but it eventually does.

I think ever since I understood the power of the spoken word, I have been over utilizing it, it always works for me, eventually. Most of the things I have managed to achieve in my young and tender age forever young, big or small, was at one time self-confessed whether through a thought, a written or spoken word. For a person who’s very non-specific, I figured the importance to be specific after I was told this short joke. Could be a true story but it made so much sense. Every time someone asked me what I want I always went like “I don’t know, anything”. Now I know better.

Jack Prayed so hard everyday and one day God finally talked to him.

God: Yes Jack, what do you really want?
Jack: I want a job, a very big car and lots of girls to be all around me every day.
God: Is that all Jack?
Jack: Yes!
God: Okay Jack, your prayer has been answered.
Jack: Oh thank you … Thank you!
*** Now Jack is a BUS DRIVER in a GIRLS’ SCHOOL.***

We really put God in a funny position when we request for things but we’re not specific. Like what did Jack want to work as, what car did he want, did he want to own it, what kind of girls does he want? He receives far too many requests to try and figure this stuff out for you. More or less how us ladies make subtle hints to our boyfriends/husbands on what gifts we want for Christmas or Birthdays notice I didn’t put Valentines. More proof that God is a guy, but they just won’t get it of you don’t say it as is.

Sometimes we lose inspiration, we lose hope, we lose something to motivate us. And while at it look, we for something new, something different, something better than what we have. What we forget is that at one point, what we have right now, or where we are right now was as a result of us finding the answer to that deep desire.

The answer to that deep desire, is not in the new or different things, it’s actually in us. You’re the one with the ability to make today better than it was yesterday. The loses are a state of mind, and so are wins. When all seems bleak, inspire yourself, no one does it better than you. When things go haywire, think positive, think solutions, you’ll be surprised how things work out in the end. When you feel like all hope is lost, don’t agree to be poor, find your spark, ignite it. That fire, strive to keep it burning, that’ll be your new source of hope.

Wishing you nothing short of a lovely weekend, let me now go and make the best out of mine.

This will be my 1st post done via my phone *woop*. I’m trying to utilize technology. Excuse any typos.

believe

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

26. Tips the Scale.

My new catch phrase for things Birthdays. I have been writing this post in my head for a while now. It’s that time of the year once again, when I tip the scale up 1 year and getting much closer to the year when the biological scale apparently starts working. But that shouldn’t worry me just yet. I thought of what my birthday wish list would look like, and it was such a task, I’d look too needy. So I decided to imagine from the top of my mind,  26 things I’d want to achieve and acquire this new year:

1.

I want to learn how to bake, grill and everything else an oven can do. Because, I have never really made good use of one. All of my food is pan-fried or sufuria cooked. I would like my family to enjoy some really good foods on the weekends.

2.

A blender, there’s an overload of ripe fruits in the market that need their juices squeezed. I think I would play a good role at that if only I had a blender.

3.

Be an adorable girlfriend to my boyfriend that’s if I’m not already *wink*.

My Birthday Mate.

My one & only handsome birthday mate. Happy Birthday Love.

4.

Keeping people dear to me much closer.

5.

A fancy phone cover for the Xperia V.

6.

Play around with my house design from furniture to curtains to placements – comfort is my mantra and funky what I want to achieve.

7.

Learn anything and everything content related – and just be good at it while at it.

8.

A vacay – I could almost see myself sipping something on some beach somewhere. But that’s for later, I haven’t accumulated enough leave days yet.

9.

Host a party. We just have to look for a reason.

10.

A card holder for my cards. I got my batch of nice cards and well I they’re still in the boxes.

cards

Woop!

11.

Get more suits for work. Yes, I adjusted and embraced it. Now I’m all suited up for the week.

12.

Continue the spirit of gifting.

13.

Think outside the box, always. Sometimes I get closed up in the box, but I would do great with outside the box.

14.

Write and write away, and hope it leads me somewhere.

15.

Inspire someone, even one person with each post I make (more like “every move I make” haha).

16.

New friends. The new ones I have made, have been nothing but amazing.

17.

To get a music system for house. Can you imagine I don’t own one. And yes, I love music. It’s just never been a priority.

16.

To grow, grow , grow. Of course not in KG’s, but out of my comfort zone.

17.

I want to go with my folks upcountry more often. I rarely do, but they’re fun to hang out with.

18.

To be a better big sister to my baby sister, I think I could do better than I am.

19.

Get or make something functional every month, no matter how small it is, as long as it is, as long as it is saving me time and effort.

20.

Try consolidate my best of everything. Have you ever been asked what is your best movie? and you’re left with a blank look because you’ve never really thought about it. It seems those are the kind of questions everyone asks nowadays.

21.

I need dresses. I don’t own any sun/hangout/office dresses. I have one tailored dress and I think 2 maxi dress. It’s for shame.

22.

Now that all my close friends are either married, in the process of getting married or talking marriage. I should start thinking forward and make imaginary plans like when I want to get married, how my dress will look, what theme colors I want, my gift list (like that washing machine I saw in Nakumatt and I can’t afford it yet…lol), my bridesmaids e.t.c.

23.

Let every experience be a lesson and not a feeling like I have failed. I think so far, I’ve tried to practice that.

24.

Eat my own baked cake on our next birthday. I’d better know how to because y’all will get a stomach ache if I don’t know how to.

25.

To declare God’s incredible blessings over my life, because I am blessed beyond measure.

26.

26 was a good year. So many good things happened to me. Some so big that the impact made me numb and all I can do is appreciate and make sure that I give those tapped opportunities my best.

27.

Have fun. Live life. Learn Lessons. Laugh at anything that deserves a good laugh.

Happy Birthday to all my #TeamAquarius people, To Kare, a special shout out to you, Happy Birthday babe. Let’s make this one memorable in our own special way. Lot’s of love, peace and light in your lives. God bless you richly.

Signing off ~~~ *Kawi*

My “3 in 1″ Pet Peeves

Pet Peevees

The Pet everyone has, meet Peeves.

There are those things about people that totally annoy you or get your “not so good side” shaken up. Like you just want to rip their faces off (that’s horrific though, but you get my point of irritation). Your pet peeves. They drive you up the wall and make you think of ways you can make their life’s just as miserable because they’ve crossed that line. Yes, we all have that imaginary line drawn on so many things, on different levels though. Because you’d find something that gets to this persons nerves that don’t necessarily get to another. Or one person is extremely sensitive, another just doesn’t give a damn, another comes on guns blazing.

Mine, happens to be – LIARS, THIEVES and people who DISRESPECT other people’s hustle. My 3 in 1 pet peeves. Well, the most likely people to have all at once happen to be con men. It really ticks me off, because I have encountered them both directly and indirectly. These people make me sin because of all the bad things I wish upon them or if I had the ability, I would do to them. The pathological liars, the pick pockets/petty thieves/big thieves (are they graded or something?), the launderers, the hoarders – I don’t get how they do this with a straight face, no flinches. I don’t even understand how they sleep at night knowing that someone they accosted is suffering grief and loss whether in a big or small way.

But then again, is that really worth it? That’s two wrongs, which don’t make a right. Not that it would benefit me in any way.  So I really thought of how else to handle that “anti-con men” feeling. Maybe it’s just about time I drew down what who I’d categorize a con man as. Because most of us have the idea of a con man being someone who fleeces or swindles some money out of you in an intelligent way (that’s one of them though, because they do).

It’s not necessarily the person who fleeces you, it could be the person who doesn’t pay you your dues when they told you they will. For businesses, that’s a trip. Because maybe that payment is the capital for the next project. It could the person who sells you an “out of this world” idea, promises heaven but eventually delivers hell. It could be the person who leeches on you, benefits so much from you but gives absolutely nothing back. What to do? I also asked myself.

I think ignorance and trust makes us get conned. Not knowing your facts and as a result, not exercising them. You get fleeced in contracts, in flowery words, in “castle in the air” ideas that look doable but unbelievable. Cons are intelligent people, so are thieves. Your psychology is on their fingertips the moment you they pass by you, it rubs off on them and they will wow you. So besides knowing your facts, don’t trust what anyone tells you.

Be smart. Be smarter than the cons. Just don’t trust anyone, let someone proof to you why you should trust them. Trust is not short-term, its long-term. Take your time to make decisions. Especially decisions that affect you financially and emotionally.

I told myself the next time I get conned, it’s because I let it happen. You should too. Nothing sucks like a loved one getting conned – financially, mentally, emotionally, name it. It actually hurts more than it hurts if it was done to you. Let’s play with their psychologies too.

What are your pet peeves?

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*