What Next?

Dreaded question? It could very easily be mine.

One of those that fall under the “best and worst question”, all in the same intensity. Best when I know what’s coming next, like I have it all planned out, with the answers at my fingertips, more like a – bring it on – kind of scenario. Worst when I’m trying to figure it out. Chances are that I haven’t even given it a thought or talked about it yet because I fear the answer is “I don’t know”. I was brought up being told to never say “I don’t know”. I’d rather give you a tentative plan or an “I’ll get back to you”. I can’t recall where I picked up that habit from, and I don’t think it was not home, because I was never harassed for not knowing. Maybe school. Well, at least it helped because I never left any blank answers during exams. I’d rather cook up an answer than admit that I don’t know, then find out later what that was all about.

What Next?

What Next? Is that kind of question that’s hooked to the human DNA. We usually feel the need to ask it especially after receiving some good news. You’re never given that honeymoon period to gloat in your glory. The moment you share something exciting, the next thing is, “What Next?” I’m guilty of doing the same thing to others and even to myself. Someone just got engaged, so when’s the wedding? Someone just got married, so when’s the baby coming? Someone gets a baby, so when’s the next one? Someone gets a job, so what are you looking for next? Someone graduates, so what will you study next? Someone chops their hair, so what will you do with it next? Someone buys new shoes … ? It’s crazy, the little heaven here on earth is always so short-lived.

I got my Post-Graduate certificate … finally! It’s one thing to graduate, but it’s another to actually get a clean bill of health from the University and receive the certificate. The excitement lasted as long as the hand over.  We can measure that in seconds. As soon as I received, the question I asked myself was, what next? Then I bump into my friend and share the same news right outside the school gate and she asks me, so what next? PhD?

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I told her, kids, but of course I was kidding (see what I did there). Truth be told though, I had a plan to do a PhD, I even know what it’ll be on – that was in my young and school-loving days, but today, I’m not entirely ready. The thought of lectures, assignments, evening classes, quarterly exams, dissertations – I’m just not ready for that kind of torture just yet. Unless, I’m the one on the front side of the class making other people feel that way *smirk*.

Sometimes, I wish we had the answers to all things future. That we always knew what next or even where and what you want to be? So that when someone asks you, you don’t look like you just swallowed a hot potato. It could very well be a conversation starter, a tough one though. Same thing as asking someone, what their 5 year or 10 year plan is. Now that I’ve mentioned;

What’s your 5/10 year plan? (10 if you think 5 is too shortsighted. I’ll accommodate y’all). Let’s think about it together, then individually jot it down somewhere (a permanent place that is, like a notebook, not your phone, technology is tricky  – it could crash or become obsolete. It’s a funny thing that books still live and last longer).

Then 5/10 years down the line, we’ll retrieve it and see if we’ll have gotten there. If we stuck to the same plan, changed course or well, it just didn’t work out and you did something different. Because we never give up, yes?

Have a Super-Charged Week Champs!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

What Are You Doing For Others?

Just imagine you’re on traffic and you want to join the next lane, but this person keeps on blocking you from joining his lane. Annoying right? Well your mind goes on an overdrive, “*throws some curse words their way* stingy blocker, they just don’t want me to prosper.” That’s what runs through your mind, no? At least that’s what we say about the people who just can’t bare seeing you ahead of them or successful.

Then, there’s this person that just paves the way for you. You indicated that you want to join his lane and he just gives you way struggle-free and life moves on. Not that you deserve it, they’re either just generally courteous or they felt that desire to momentarily put their needs aside and give you a hand in handling yours. Sometimes you’re the road hog and you think that your business is more important than the other persons’, or that you are more deserving (which means, at that moment you think they’re not).

We forget to then that reason we get through a couple of circumstances is because someone somewhere paved the way for you. Not necessarily giving you way in traffic, but that counts too. Like going out of their way to make sure that you’re sorted out if you had an issue; taking time out of their tight schedule to be there for you, it could be through a visit, a call, a text saying “hi” or simply, liking their Facebook status; finding out what disturbing your friend/acquaintance and giving them your ear even if for a moment; biting the bullet for your team-mate and walking with them through a tough situation.

This may go unnoticed. Actually, in most cases it always does, at least by the public, but it makes a humongous difference for the person directly impacted. You that feeling when the person in traffic paves way for you and you want to; get out of the car and shake his hand, or wave frantically, or give them a big “THANK YOU” shout out. Now imagine if we generated that kind of feeling in all the places we grace or the people we rub shoulders with?

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Doing something for someone (small or big) without necessarily expecting recognition or a return of the favor, but just because you want to see them ease-up and smile, even if for a moment. Those are the things that keep me awake at night. Most of the time.

Happy Hump Day!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Reflective Friday

It’s been a while since I did a #TGIF post. It could be because of one of these many reasons; I lost that Friday mojo I once had, I got tired of the structures, I became lazy to give all that information, I couldn’t keep up with some sections (I have been reading one e-book for God knows how long) or time just escapes me and the next thing I know, it’s Friday night and No Post. I miss it all the same. I was cheesy, wishful, chatter-boxy, there was never a dull Friday or if it was (which I can bet you there were quite a couple), the post brightened it up.

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Let me share with you my current favorite posts (5) on #KawiSnippets – reminds me of my 5 links. I was just checking out some past posts and if I could hi5 myself, I actually have. Months and years later, I’m still able to speak to self through these posts. Then I wonder, what I was going through as I wrote this, because it’s timeless. I think the one resting fact is that, life is a cycle and it repeats itself; the lessons, the challenges, the thoughts, the joys. And in most cases, there are many others going through the same things you are, just in different environments and set-ups.

  • Lessons and a bow: Just a series of lessons I learn along the way. Sometimes I get inspired by the things that happen around me and then, even more when I’m able to put them down into words and make some sense out of them.
  • The thin line between independence and dependence: When it comes to relationships between spouses, this is always a HOT topic. The women say, let the man be THE man and do his work (i.e. in short, finance the home). The men say, we also need the women chip in. Others say, let’s go Dutch. I did this post because I felt it’s a very thin line that it’s mostly influenced by our backgrounds. How do you balance so that you don’t lean too much on either side?
  • The Dilemma: Don’t we all go through this? As long as you have to make a decision about something, there’s always a dilemma on which side to lean on. Once you make that decision, something’s got to give. What do you do with that thing, let go perhaps?
  • Letting go of 2013, to let in 2014: It was about learning to celebrate the small victories. Sometimes we’re a little hard on ourselves, yet we achieve so much each day. We strive to see the finish line and miss to see the small strides it took to get there. The wins are in the small strides, not the finish line.
  • This blog reminds me of the power of the spoken, in this case, written word. I got the couch I really wanted. Remember the one I mentioned here. At the end of the day, I thank God for that ability to go for it. The blessing to be able to speak a blessing to one-self.

Quote of the Day

I once did a mock-poem. That was such a try, considering I think I have zero poetic ability in my veins.

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“When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”

Happy Friday Lovelies. Lots of love, light and peace!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

 

 

 

Harsh Realities

If there’s one (actually two but intertwined) thing I have learnt to respect and appreciate is time and experience.  At one point, I was of the school of thought “why do I have to wait to get this? I want it now” and “why do people make a big deal out of experience? I mean, if I can do it why are you asking for years of experience.” And then I figured, that time gives you leeway, while experience gives you exposure. They reveal to you things that you thought you knew but you actually didn’t. And slowly you keep advancing yourself. That’s why those two, I believe, are the most important aspects of growth. Growth in whichever capacity. So;

  • When you read a job vacancy and they’re asking for 5-10 years’ experience, that request is valid. It shouldn’t demoralize you. It should instead make you more optimistic, that the struggle you’re going through now is worth it. That at one point, with a little patience in your grind, you will reap the benefits too.  Respect your seniors, because one day, you’ll get there and you’ll want your juniors to do the same.
  • If you see folks who have been married for a couple of years, and they are giving you pieces of advice, listen, for only they know better. It doesn’t mean you have to do as they say or be as they are, but why re-invent the wheel or go through the same rough path they trudged, while they have identified a smoother one?
  • You have a business and someone tells you, “give it time, it will pick up”. The business is viable and your service delivery is exceptional – I tell my mum this every day, you just need to give it time and once people know about your services (experience), they’ll be loyal, and you’ll be their point of reference. Businesses don’t flourish in a day, a month or a year, some legacy’s take years to build. One just needs to be patient and put in some extra effort while at it.
  • You’ll understand how a person with years of experience will always tramp someone with no years of experience despite them having superior skills or why you can’t build a brand/business/house in one day -> Trying to put it into perspective.

Life, Life Lessons, Experience, Time, Harsh Realities

I know right! Not what one wants to hear. It’s a harsh reality, but the earlier one starts to value the fundamentals of growth; time & experience, the more things will make sense. I know most things don’t. It’s a LIFE-TIME EXPERIENCE!

Happy Thursday Folks!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Earphone Moments Call For Some Ear-Time

You know how when you put earphones in your pocket, then when the time comes for you to remove them, they’re tangled into a bajillion knots, and you just wonder how that happened. It was just a pair of earphones that went in there and nothing else. Well, it could be the material they’re made of, but still, it’s bothersome. You have to spend some good time detangling them so that you’re able to comfortably use them.

Sometimes, we have that earphone-moments in life.  At one moment everything around you is okay and you’re reveling in it, then the next moment things are going berserk and you have no idea how you got to that point. It could be at work, at home, somewhere in between. You then have your moment of taking the “earphones” out of the “pocket” and detangling them back to normalcy.

In essence, all that’s needed is for someone to take the earphones out of the pocket and not necessarily detangle them. They could be choking in there for all we know. In life, sometimes all we need is someone to talk to. Someone to get you out of the “pocket”. It doesn’t have to be your family or friend, it could also be a stranger. They might not know what you’re going through but through a conversation, they could calm a nerve that was otherwise chocking you up (and you didn’t even know it was). They don’t have to sort out the problem, but at least they shed in some light for you.

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When someone comes up to you, give them a minute or two, and share with them you have in mind or vice versa. What you have in mind could be an answer to something that’s been itching them in the wrong place ha ha ha okay, wrong move, but true, it could be what relieves them. I think God uses us to reach out to our own. You know when you pray and you are waiting for an answer(s), I don’t think they fall out of the heavens and happen. It’s through people that our miracles happen. It could be people you know, people close to you, or it could be a complete stranger. Don’t dismiss them, give them some ear-time and hear them out – let them minister to  you or be the one who reaches out to them and they give you some time for you to minister to them.

Happy Hump Day Lovelies!

My Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day. Let me tell you a little something about my Father, who I call Dad or Daddy (mostly when I need a favor, because it almost sounds like you’re saying it with a puppy face and battling eyelashes). First, he is the best dad I could ever have. He’s the epitome of cool, calm and collected, very easy going and not fussy about stuff (I mean, he’ll eat what we’re eating, watch what we’re watching, chill with us, fix stuff around, drink coffee – with no specifications on how it should be made). He speaks his mind and doesn’t sugar coat anything he says, which now makes me think he’s the most genuine person I know. Especially when it comes getting realistic feedback, he’s the go to guy. If it’s a yes, it’s a yes. If it’s a no, it’s a no. If it looks bad, then that’s what it is. If it looks good, he won’t give it to you in a golden platter, he’ll tell you in a sarcastic way, you have to have some humor to get it. There’s no in between. I think on that part, I took my mothers genes because I sugarcoat, a lot.

Well, when growing up, we had our best moments and not so best moments. There are times I thought, “how can dad say that”, “how can he refuse this”. Sometimes, I had ideas of what I want to do or where I want to go and he’ll blatantly refuse or give a reason that’s painfully true but not one you want to hear at that point in time. If not, he’ll give curfews or ultimatums, and it just felt like he just didn’t get me or he was being a bit too strict when other friends were having it much easier. Then later on in life, I look back and I appreciate all that. Strange. That’s the circle of life I tell you.

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The tough calls, the lectures, the pushing, all that made me who and what I am. I may not have much today (maybe I do, and I don’t know it yet), however, I know as I continue growing, I want to make sure the sacrifices he made (and continues to make even today) to ensure I (we) have it all, remain and continue being worthwhile. I can never repay him, I will never try to, because he’s playing his role right. I will reciprocate that love, that commitment, that sacrifice that he provides every single day and moment.

As his daughter, I know when all is said and done, he’s the one man that will always have my heart. Just seeing him smile, seeing him proud of us and letting him be, our dad. Thumbs up to my mum, your husband is a keeper.

Behind every amazing dad, is a mum that always backs him up (lesson learnt through a lifetime of observation).

On a lighter note, he’s a cap guy. He’s always in one every weekend. I bet you he’d be in one during the week if work allowed. Every time I ask him what he wants for his birthday, for Christmas, for Father’s Day, randomly, a cap is always in the mix. Though he always removes it on photos it so that we can see his handsome face – his words. Too fresh!

Now you’ll have a blessed week, won’t you? Love & Light!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

A Rainbow State of Mind

I saw the rainbow and it got me really excited. I always miss out on this opportunity. It reminded me of the rainbow story. You know the one with the golden pot at the end of the rainbow. I believe it, don’t judge now. We just need to figure where the end is, because I need to be there. It’s the colors that get me, the yellow & orange and how they stand out but still blend in with the rest. I don’t know how God did it, but he sure did it good. Of nature and its coolness. Just when I was about to appreciate it of course through a photo (which I would have posted on Instagram), I couldn’t get a clear shot. Then it slowly faded away and bam! No more rainbow. My life went back to normal. Not that normal is not exciting (maybe not so, just a wee bit), but there was that “return to normal state” feeling.

The state of the mind, very powerful. How one moment you can be excited because of the pomp and color in your life and the next minute you’re torn down because of the gloom & dullness in your life. It’s a rat-trap. The only thing that remains constant is you, your mind will always play tricks. Like the weather, one time it’s warm and sunny, then all over sudden it’s cold and rainy. Amidst all that confusion, the rainbow smiles at you with so much color it makes you indifferent to what’s actually happening. For a moment, you forget whether it was sunny or rainy, because the rainbow distracts you. That could be the trick.

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Know when to let out your rainbow, when you’re caught in between the two worlds. I know we’re human and it’s almost impossible to control your state of mind, but if the weather can do it, sure we can too. Your rainbow would be that thing that makes your insides smile even when your outside isn’t cooperating. Find it.

Happy Friday Lovelies. Lots of rainbows your way today and always!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*