Looking for Inspiration?

We look for all inspiration from what we do, hear, say, see ain’t it? Just like when we pluck an eye lush or see a lonely star (save for a shooting star) or blow the candle(s) on the birthday cake, we actually make that wish hoping with all our fingers and toes crossed that it will come true. At least I genuinely do. I met with my baby sister yesterday (though it happens every other day now that she’s doing something in the CBD as she waits to enter campus and boy isn’t she demanding…lol), a mid my busy schedule *cough cough* I can actually afford to say that without flinching, and I was telling her, “It would be nice if I could make lots of money without having to work so hard.”  Of course we laughed it off, I mean, like seriously?!

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So after she lays down her case as to why I should take her for lunch, this was done in a professional way mind you, these kids. We go for lunch, chit chats and all, watch her gobble down everything ha ha, and when I go back to the office, I think of that statement I’d brushed off earlier as a joke. We actually do look for inspiration? In all cracks and crevices, in people and things both existent and non-existent. As we look for it, our hopes are raised for a moment there and we feel like we’re close to grabbing it or getting it right. Then something slaps us back to reality or gets us to strike that iron while it’s still hot. The thing with inspiration, just like excitement, is that it dies out faster than you can squeal, “yaaay”. So you really have to be with it, take it and use it before it escapes you.

How we cling on to that source of inspiration we have instantaneously connected with such that the moment it doesn’t appeal to you as had expected it to you end up feeling disappointed, let down, too expectant and all things related. Like when you get the slightest form of criticism you crawl back into your shell, or when no one gives a helping hand, you feel bad. It’s human, am human, it happens to me. It’s because you are depending on that source to give you the energy to start that thing you’ve been dying to do, or that thing that needs to be done but psyche to do it is negative, more like that spark that will start the fire.

But what’s a spark without a purpose or without anything to fuel it? It will eventually go off or just keep sparking and doing nothing. Give that spark life, something to make it develop into a flame or a fire. You are the one who decides what you want it to be based on what you want it to do. Do you want it to cook, warm you up, give light, burn stuff? That spark is your inspiration, it’s better when it catches you working, then it gives you psyche, and not catching you off guard because then it won’t be of use. It’s the spark that’s the source of inspiration for the fire that follows, and it has to work its way into creating a fire that will last long enough to serve its purpose. This could be by having enough gas, fanning or blowing it so as to expose the fire/heat.

Inspiration is not magic or some voodoo,  it’s there with you, you just need to cultivate it. When you look for it, chances are that it will elude you. So you just do your thing, find within you the energy or zeal to do what it is that you’re dying to do, inspiration will find you. I say this because many times, am caught in the endless search for inspiration, I want to sit there and still find it, of course that never happens. I find that I have to start the task then somewhere mid-way I am so in to it, that the passion and desire to get it done overwhelms me, I equate that to my inspiration. The people that help you while at it, give a hand or two, give you positive sentiments, criticism, that’s inspiration. The abstract things that you place your hope on while you do your task, those wishes, those expectations, the unfounded thoughts, that’s inspiration.

You don’t find inspiration, it finds you!

You don’t find inspiration, inspiration finds you! Feels like a Chuck Norris statement.

Inspiration has its source in the oddest of forms, but as long as you experience it. Isn’t that what matters? Besides that, is there something you’ve been dying to do and you just didn’t have that psyche for doing it? Now is the time to start, then along the way, Mr (Mrs). Inspiration will catch up with you.

Pink always wins me over with her music (kind of relates to what I was saying, but from another perspective) and weirdness. How do you like this one? Can you believe it’s just 15th January, how’s it that time is flying, but when you look at the calendar the days are dragging. Is it just me or have you made that observations? I guess that’s how January rolls, but we need to cramp its style sometime. Maybe 2014.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Who’s Your Cheerleader?

Life is fragile. It could be like this one day and the next day it flips a coin and becomes something else. Like when a hobo hits the jack pot or Richie rich is declared bankrupt or you sleep well and wake up with a bad ass flu or slip and break a bone or two. What keeps everything together is you. Basically, its all about you, it always is. All the things you do, deep within it’s for your fulfillment. It’s all about what you feel, what you think and what you want (and not necessarily need, because you’ll somehow make sure get what you really need or a way to get around it).

When an egg breaks by an outside force, a life ends.
When an egg breaks by an inside force, a life begins.
Similarly, great things always begin from within!

It takes a little more to make a champion of course, but it takes a lot more to make a cheerleader. It’s not everyday that you’ll find yourself cheering yourself on. In all honesty, there are some situations that it takes more than other people to come to your aid. Such that even if the external force like in the case of the egg comes to your rescue they could crack you up (not in the “haha funny” kind of way, but in the “get out of my life” kind of way) and leave you more messed up than you actually were.

But if it’s something that comes from within, you are able to think it, analyse it and apply it. It could be a slow process, but the fact that it’s stemming out from you makes the difference. No one can internalize something for you, no one can give you the “you can do it” or “it’s going to be okay” mentality more than you can do yourself. In not so many words, you are supposed to be your own cheer leader.

Your life is the only place you’re both the player in the play-field and the cheerleader on the sidelines. It’s the cheerleaders who give the players the psyche for the game, they are sometimes even the ones who bring some spirit to the game.

The next time you think you don’t have cheerleaders in your life or someone asks you “who’s your cheerleader”? (woe unto you if you almost thought it’s who’s your daddy). Most of us are blessed to have families, partners and friends as your top cheerleaders, but no one beats you being your own. Because when other people don’t have hope in you at one point or another, you can have hope in yourself and that’s what makes you take the next leap on to greater things. Plus what are the chances of disappointing yourself, unless you don’t really like yourself. You should go out of your way to be there for yourself.

So if you’re going through something, I know it’s easier to say than do and I’m probably not in your shoes because am not you and you’re not in mine either, but you’re your best cheerleader. You’re the one who’ll cheer yourself while you’re in the play-field hustling and trying to make ends meet. Others will play with you, cheer with you but the MVP at the end of the day should be you. Not your friends, not your family, not your partner. They are your support system, your team and they’ll definitely help you defend and attack … Yikes! Did I just go the football way, the influence meeh! But you get what I mean. yes?

Sign Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Choose Your Battles

“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” ~ C. JoyBell C.

Many are the times we are faced with situations that leave us feeling like we’re in a battle field, you just don’t know what the next move will be. It’s either you’re firing away or you’re the one holding the shield to protect yourself. Then again we’re left with the choice to decide whether we are going to make it a battle field or we’ll just retreat, call it truce and move unto other important things. Well, in writing it sounds pretty easy and fancy but in reality, it’s one of the most difficult things to do. This you letting down your guard and hoping to solve whatever it is amicably with a person who has probably gotten you to your last *not so amused* nerve.

We are all human, we are all bound to make mistakes here and there even when we mean good, sometimes so innocently that it surprises you that it actually made someone pretty pissed ha-ha guess who’s a culprit, ask the mister. Consciously or subconsciously, we get on to someones nerves. This happens almost every other day, so imagine if every-time this happened, we chose to get into the battle field, fight for our rights and see who comes out winner. There are also those times that you even know you’re the source of the battle, that if you just came forth, apologized and straightened things out, things will be at ease.

Basically, it’s not everything that gets to your nerve should be worth a fight. Fights should be chosen wisely. Know when to come out armed, when to fire out, when to hold your fire or shield and so on. But also know when to retreat, because in every fight, there are winners, losers and/or eventually enemies.

So really, if it’s your partner, your parents or even your siblings and you’re having a fight, be sure to know when to retreat, when to raise the white flag saying, “let’s sort this out.” Because where there’s a winner and a loser assuming the battle has to eventually come to an end (maybe with the help of internal or external forces), in which case an enemy lingers. Ever been to paint-ball? Best scenario, when you’re told to give up, just raise your hand…well, trying to picture it  in a fight, damn! Makes you feel like a woos, but it’s for the good trust me, things you do for love.

The best thing about these battles, sought or unsought, chosen or abandoned, is that once the dust has settled, you can talk about it and maybe laugh about it, if it was funny. After all what is it about winning battles anyway? So lets say you win a battle and then? If am the one on the losing end, I’ll feel wrecked and probably look for a way to get back at you, I mean who wants to carry the “L” sign on the forehead? I sure don’t want. So fights, are about compromising, coming to an agreement, calling it truce. Unless it’s beyond repair, then we can have the winner and loser! Read this one though, it’s a funny one.

Humor is the spiciest condiment in the feast of existence. Laugh at your mistakes but learn from them, joke over your troubles but gather strength from them, make a jest of your difficulties but overcome them.

In other non-related news,

How these things tangle O_O

How earphones get tangled while in your pocket or bag? I mean not that they have so much space, but the tangling that happens there baffles me. Maybe the pair doesn’t get along *bulb light* and since they don’t have much of a choice the best they can do is strangle each other, hence the tangling…lol. If only earphones were humans, this would make so much sense. Otherwise, it remains a ghostly mystery.

Ps: Happy Birthday to an amazing and special friend, Liz Njeri Karanja. A big Shout Out to you. May you have many more and be blessed because you more than deserve it. Much Love. To my readers, hope your Tuesday is as terrific as it’s supposed to be, mine is. I believe.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Say It, Don’t Jinx It!

Call me superstitious or NOT, because am not (I don’t fear black cats *cheeky grin* okay yikes! Just lied, they creep the hell-out-of me) but I have always had this thing with jinxing exciting moments. Like say you are in an extremely happy mood just because maybe someone is making you happy or you’re expecting something to come through and it’s not been confirmed or you’re eagerly waiting for an event that’s yet to come but you want to keep those exciting things at hush hush, so that you don’t jinx it.

Jinxing it in this case, is the exact opposite of what you’re experiencing or expecting happening. Like you becoming sad for whatever reason, or the thing you’re expecting gets turned down or the event is just a miss. Basically, a spoiler to the good things. So I got to thinking about it at some point, very critically I must say *cough*, in the hope that it sounds scholarly, why would I think that saying what am feeling or expecting be a jinx. If anything, what you confess with your mouth somehow becomes because your heart listens and your mind acts upon it. So if you avoid saying the nice things you are feeling, expecting and desiring, then your heart and mind listen and act upon your thoughts and that’s how you give room for the worst.

There’s was this evening I was beyond happy, you know the kind where everything is  extremely funny with the full laughing to rib aches and tears at every word uttered. Then I don’t know how this happened, but in my mind I was questioning it and was like, “am too happy, I just hope the next level is still happy.” I was even going to mention it, I think on twitter (I mean that’s where it feels like you’re shouting at the rooftop when you’re in the comfort of your couch), but I was like nooo, I’ll jinx it. To my surprise, in not so long, something just dampened my moods, must’ve been a disagreement or something. But I hadn’t even said it *sob* I just thought it. Well a thought is also a confession, apparently. Now I figure.

You jinx it when you don’t say it! You thinking that something will turn out the worst should you say it is being pessimist O_O. No, I didn’t read this anywhere, it’s just a thought process. So to be positive and bring forth positive outcomes during moments and situations:

Say It, Don’t Jinx It!

In short, what am trying to say is don’t question your happiness, you deserve every bit of it. Even when it’s challenged or taken away, always try to get it back for its yours to have, own and flaunt! Have a Terrific Tuesday and be more than blessed *wink*. It’s CAT week, let me dash off to read, wish me luck now. Okay bye, for now!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Seekers…Keepers

It’s one thing to know what you want or need,  it’s another to get it and another one to create room for those things once you get them because you eventually do. Problem is that if it’s not self-driven and by that I mean envision it, yearn for it or there’s nothing you’ve had to give up for it, you’ll feel short-changed. The satisfaction derived from that whole process should make you feel like you’re on some spaceship headed to the blue moon okay I just exaggerated but you feel me.

Well that’s just once in a blue moon, most of the times we get things that we thought we didn’t want or need or we actually wanted just had thought of them in a more *castle in the air* kind of way and they drive you off your tangent. That right there is what we call experience, because it’s usually an instance that comes and goes but leaves you some few lessons to learn from.

You have to go through a series of instances to actually figure yourself out first. Pretty sure it’s something we have all experienced in one way or another. For some not in the easiest of ways, for others things have come pretty easy it’s like you had it all aligned it for you. All the same, I think it’s always worth the experience, makes you appreciate what you get even more.

I have been through a couple of experiences myself, in work, at school, in relationships of different kinds … it’s just amazing. I know there’s someone out there thinking, amazing? *pops eyes* are you kidding me? Yeah, I guess that’s how I take it in. Maybe that’s why I’m still sane or that’s why you would see me smiling when I should be hitting the roof as I try to contain my hulk. Trust me we all have a hulk in us, or is this the point where I use singular terms like “I”, I have some hulk a.k.a Meru in me.

Sometimes you get yourself somewhere not because it’s the wrong place at that point time, it’s just a stepping stone to the next level. The next level of taking you towards where you want to be. That situation could be grooming you for what life has in store for you. That’s why I say it’s pretty interesting. Think of it that way and you could be somewhat comfortable with your situation. You know the beauty of it is that, lets assume something goes wrong at one point, you will be sad but it won’t last forever. We are all bound to experience different emotions at different time. Both the good and the bad. Sadness, disappointments, bitterness, is just but a part of them, so is bliss, joy, gratefulness and so on. I tend to think they do take turns, because nothing is perfect, no one is from the human perspective. So at one point you’re on a high, the next you’re at a low (you’ve got to know how to chase this one away once it checks in … low is not a sport, never quite looks good on you).

 

Point is, knowing what you want, better yet identifying what you need. An important aspect of this is that it lets you know what to keep and what to let go of (people, a character you hold, something material, it could be anything). What you keep can sometimes be what deters you from getting…no? Then again, you could get what you want but it’s not necessarily what you need or you could get what you need but not what you want…lol talk of life getting it all twisted, that’s its nature though. So lucky are you when you get what you want and need. It’s a plus knowing it, because it gets you to treasure what you’ve got more, work hard for it because you know its importance and make sure that it’s for keeps. Everything does count, it contributes to who you are, what you’re yet to be and last but not least what and who is linked to you.

In other non-related news,  the music I’ve been listening to these days. Who knew there was country gospel … pop’ish kinda music? She’s good, Jamie Grace (one song at a time album) on replay, so soulful!

Just saw this on my friends update and thought to share since sharing is caring and seeing as I haven’t fed your minds in a while, these ones looks like some great lessons to adopt:

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Marry a man or woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
3. When you say “I Love you” mean it.
4. When you wrong someone, look at them in the eye and say “I’m sorry”.
5. Love deeply and passionately. You may get hurt,but its the only way to live life completely.
6. Talk slowly but think quickly.
7. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
8. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
9. Remember the 3 Rs: Respect for self, Respect Others, Responsibility for all your actions.
10. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
11. Spend some time alone.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Back to Basics

I’ve always had an issue when it comes to doing accounts, finance and any other related courses. This I will blame the first lecturer who was supposed to teach us the introduction bit of the course. This is how it was done, “By a show of hands who did business education in high school?” We had just completed our O’ Levels and had just joined college, you know the one that your parents use as a means of keeping you off the hood *read boys*. Anyway, so a couple of students actually like half the class put up their hands. I was one of the few who had done music (yeah, I did music as an elective, I always wonder what I was thinking when I was choosing it by the way). So you can imagine I had no slightest idea what accounting is all about.

So he goes ahead and says, “That’s a majority, the rest of you will learn from your friends, so we can start from chapter 3 or so…” O_O basically after that statement, I zoned off. Spent the rest of the semester complaining how I wasn’t getting a thing in Accounts, not that I was doing anything to better the situation. By the end of the semester I was still as green as the first day. I would ace other units, but this one I was a few marks shy of a 0. I’m not bad in math, if anything I’m fairly good *not toot toot’ing*. So it was a shock when we did the exam and voila … Fail! I almost got a heart attack though, you know how you think you’re smart and you just can’t fail? It doesn’t work like that.

So when I was re-sitting the paper, I just decided to actually put some serious effort and read for it. I started from page one of that Frank Wood Accounting Book. Yes page 1, considering I didn’t even know what credit and debit was (technically) and why and where they are placed on the balance sheets. As I went on reading, the more I read, the easier it became. Once I understood the introduction bit, everything else sort of became a breeze. I felt a tad bit stupid because I could have just done that in the beginning (but I didn’t). No wonder people do college before campus, you need to go through these stuff, because after that failing has never been an option. I’d rather crack my head reading even the last-minute than fail an exam. It’s too embarrassing, and I have an ego to protect (the genius one…lol).

As unimportant the beginning seems in many things in life, the ‘what is’ part of many things is what actually determines whether you know what you’re getting yourself into or not. What is it is that constitutes that thing, the definition of those things and how or when they are to be used. You will find that what you learn in the introduction stage, is what you will more or less use all through the course. The small terms that you thought to brush off are the ones that will keep popping up here and there *credit this, debit that* and if you get that bit wrong, you’ve messed up the whole solution and that’s how you fail.

That is life, it may seem difficult, you might try here, there or even do nothing then in the end you just fail. Failing is not only about getting an ‘F’ here, it could be so many other things on so many other different levels. Failing also doesn’t mean it’s the last lap and all is over and done, no, there are re-sits, which are more like second chances to prove to yourself and to others that, “errmmm that was just a misunderstanding”. To prove that you’re better than that, you’re smarter than that (in my case), that you just slipped/tripped but you can get yourself up and do something about it. Sometimes what we need is to go back to the basics because without the basics, you’re as good as nothing.

The solution to a problem, always starts from those basics, they are the ones that help you derive a formula. Actually, they are the ones that make up that formula. So if you don’t understand them, then what problem are you solving? That’s how we find ourselves stuck in the middle of something, using the wrong formula’s to solve a problem or mixing up the formulas whereby for this problem you use a formula that could be used to solve another one. Uh oh, the tangles, the getting mixed up, the confusions, the wondering why the variables are not fitting in. Solution, always go back to the basic even when you think you’re too grown up for that. You will be surprised at how things that seem to be complex are just a combination of basics.

Be young and don’t be afraid to start. Starting over is not a bad thing, if anything, it’s refreshing and you get a chance to spot what you had missed out or fix what had gone wrong because sometimes you do figure it out.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Endless Needs

The number of times we feel like what we have is just not enough. Like if we were given just a bit more life would be much better or more beautiful. Yes … No? Like we are inadequate, be it in material things, what makes you up, what others offer you. Like you could have better, get better or be better. Of course if you had more than what you have now, it would be much better but what about now?

‘I don’t have’ always seems to be the most ideal response to ‘do you have’. It rolls off the tongue with so much ease it almost seems right…wrong? Why would we subject ourselves to not having when we actually have. It could not be enough, but at least you have something even if it comes in small doses.

‘I don’t have money’, ‘I don’t have clothes’, ‘I don’t have time’, ‘I don’t have friends’, ‘I’m not loved’, ‘I’m not good enough’, ’I don’t, I’m not … ‘ I could give a whole range of example of the number of times I say this myself. Then out of the blues I figured, when I say this at least I have a shilling or two in my wallet or bank, I probably need another wardrobe to fit in my clothes, I have at least a handful of friends whom I know will be there for me, I am more than loved, I’m work in progress into the best. You have, you have so much, only thing is that it’s never going to be enough.

Point in case, the number of times I say, “I don’t have clothes, shoes, bags” O_O *frantically shaking my head*. Yes I know, some shame shame on me. When I was moving out packing all that stuff, carrying them and finally re-arranging them was a back-breaking activity. This is what I had to ask myself,  ”Really Kawria really! How many of these clothes, shoes or bags do you even wear or carry?”  Answer, ” A very small fraction. It’s from that day hence forth I was like I will stop ranting and start appreciating what I have by using it first. The number of new things I have acquired and don’t use – countless.

This could be because I don’t see what I have as enough, so even when I get more, I don’t feel like it’s still enough. However, if I learn to use what I have (like wear my variety of clothing, carry the different bags, wear the different shoes) then it would be easier to identify my needs and buy stuff that I need more, and not just accumulating the same thing (seeing as that’s not even progress in itself).

What to do now? Well, since we are humans and needs and wants are going to arise every minute, of every second let me leave that description there how about we be content with what we have, learn to appreciate it, use it and see its value. Then we will be able to create room for more, more of what we actually need and not what we think we need. This actually makes acquiring more worthwhile and even as we aim higher, we will know where we are coming from and where it is that we want to head. You won’t get overwhelmed by having more, it will actually be easier to manage it.

What about of matters of the heart? I say, appreciate whoever it is you have now (yourself, family, friends, spouses) … Love more where you can, care more where you can, always be there when you can. So that in future when you look back, you don’t say, “I could have done better than that”. At least for once you can have a chance to say, “I did the best I could”. When you do all that, whether it works out or it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, then don’t regret it because at that particular moment you put your best foot forward and it made you happy.

Now, ‘if saying was as simple as doing’ … lol. I’m pretty sure that’s what in your head right about now, but what’s impossible really? This sure ain’t one of the impossibilities so it can’t be an excuse.

Mellow Monday … yeah even the weather calls for it. Smile at someone today and make their week a bit better, be that sunshine for them. Have an awesome week ahead.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Woman Of Substance

Don’t we all hate disappointments? That being the sole reason you would rarely find me asking for help. I’ll always try to be ninja or superwoman just to avoid disappointments. I am totally guilty of this, I can’t even start denying and as result I set low expectations on people.Which after some thought in as much as it seemed smart, I found it rather lame.

Why would I set low expectations just because I fear disappointments? That means then I get a raw deal from whoever it is and I’ll just be okay with it. It’s not what I deserve, but it’s what I have chosen to get and so I settle for it. It’s more like a trade-off,  to avoid getting disappointed, then set low expectations, a lie we feed ourselves every other day.  Low expectations are actually the reasons we get disappointed, why we get hurt, why we are not happy, why we don’t get what we deserve, why our worth is under estimated.

Set high expectations for yourself and for others because a woman of substance knows what their worth and what they deserve. A woman of substance is a woman who has strong character, is consistent, has more to her than meets the eye and has a variety of interests outside and within her home and family. She is interesting to get to know; she possesses a depth of personality and character.

That’s what you should strive to be, don’t let anyone or anything make you think any less of yourself. You’re the best there could ever be and there’s no one else who can match up to you. I mean, after all you are the only you around. You need to leave a mark that no one else can replace, we all have that ability in one way or another…no?

To all, the women, whoever you are and wherever you are, it is a huge blessing that you are there. You all make life beautiful for without you so many things wouldn’t be. And to say the least, as my friend has put it, all those little things women do that may seem fussy, they actually do make life much easier for you. Take some time to appreciate a woman or two who play a role in your life, not just today but every other day and you’ll see the difference that makes.

Well … well … well, now that most women are defined by their relationships I can bet I’m not wrong on this. Here goes to the song of the day, I love it!

Lot’s of love to the women in who make my life beautiful. God bless y’all with your heart’s desires!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

This and That

This –> The moving was pretty successful, for those who are interested in knowing now that I whined and whined about it on the last TGIF post…he he but it’s allowed once in a while…no? All in all I got the smooth weekend I prayed for, so I really thank God for that. Now I’m settled once again and I hope and pray to have long and pleasant stay in my new pad.

That –> Through my usual rounds in the internet, yeah, I like taking walks and checking out the scenery and what the world has to offer. I came across a certain random post. You know one of those you read and you’re like, words straight from my mind. Not how I would say it because structuring it would be a bit of an issue. But whoever wrote this couldn’t have said it any better.

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: ‘What kind of man are you looking for?’ She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do you really want to know?’ Reluctantly, he said, ‘Yes.’ She began to expound, As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can’t for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’ The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ‘ I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, ‘I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked – believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family oriented. One who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect.

In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive, he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him … He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help him self.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot?! She replied, “I’m worth a lot” ~ unknown author

So what do you think about this? Is it too much to ask for? Because I’m pretty sure we are all in one way or another you probably wouldn’t want to admit it looking for that companion who knows, respects and matches our worth and each of us is worth a lot.

And in other non-related news, now that it’s a little of everything, sometimes you say things to encourage people not knowing that you will have to encourage yourself with the same words…he he! That was me over the weekend, you know those moments you just say ‘close your eyes, clear your heart and just let it go’ on this post…I did exactly that. Some things are not really worth creating a roar with someone who could be your mother especially material stuff. I say, ‘you lose some, you gain some’, that’s how life is. I believe in one way or another I’ll get much more than what I lost.

I love it when the world is in cahoots with you. You know, arranging itself in such a way that you don’t struggle in a circumstance which if that didn’t happen you would’ve had it rough. I think that’s what happened to me this weekend. Some random coincidences, some friends who I will always cling to, life does teach you. The next time my friend mentions they need help with ‘simple things’ like moving houses, I will try my best to help even if it’s just sitting there chatting them up. That was what really kept me sane, clearly I’m now all back to smiley, smiley.

To a super blessed and fruitful week!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Like You? Would You?

 

Has this ever crossed your mind -> What if you were told to go on a date with yourself? Do you think you would like you? Would you enjoy your company or would you feel like forcing a fork down your throat because of how bored you’ll get. Maybe it’s about time you experienced what your friends have to go through *evil grin*

Test it and see how that goes. You know the full cuppa hot chocolate since I’m not a tea fan, with cookies and an imaginary you. Okay, that sounds cray but hey how else will you do it. It’s not every day that people are going to be there for you, you know the ones that you think that will always be there. I mean they also have their stuff going on.

So you should be able to be there for yourself and not pity yourself when people those people you count on are not there? For whatever reasons you have to learn this things the hard way, pretty sure it’s happened to you one time or another. It’s happened to me a dozen of times. The times you expect people to be there it could be on your birthday, when you’re going through ish or you’re just happy and you want to share … they could also be all up in their business too and guess who’s left to be there for you? YOU.

You have to find the joy inside of yourself. Make your self laugh, dress up, be able to just chill out, reflect, be in touch with yourself, know how to love you. Basically be there for yourself. For only then, will you be able to know how to be there for others and it’s importance. Difficult as it seems, yes it is, it’s much fun or so it seems when you have someone or people there to help you out, to chill with, have a good laugh with but what if they are not there. Sulk? Be sad? No! Be happy and go on as usual!

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~  Lucille Ball

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*