New Year and Friendly Things

9th January, whoopsie, hope am not too late. Looks like the new year came with so much on my plate, that blogging came off for a moment there as luxury. Chasing up deadlines as with regards to my school thesis, am the last-minute kind of person but I’ve been meaning to change that about me. I think am getting too old *cough* to deal with that pressure, plus the so much at stake here, so I can’t take chances with being the extreme last-minute person that I once was.

Then there’s work, which at the moment is all kinds of depressing for me. I know, it’s probably just for the moment because of a task I’m expected to do *cringe* among other related things, it’s all rosy with the thorns pricking. Some fun aspect popped up out of the blues which is awesome, like a light in the middle of the tunnel. Let’s see how it all goes. Meeh! Such is work though, trying to be positive here *woooosaaah*. Besides that life is doing me good, other aspects of it are at the least tip-top.

The other day we were talking with a friend about the “best friend” concept. I know the best friend word has been thrown around but there are some people who actually live up to it and I’m most definitely not one of them. Though, I would have or since I’ve not, I would love to be a good “best” friend to someone. I can’t say it’s because I do not have friends, I actually have a couple who I could have as a best friend, just that the process of keeping has to involve so much commitment, communication, opening up and trust.

By this I don’t mean your spouse (partner/boyfriend/husband/wife/girlfriend) of course those by default are your besties because you connect in all those ways. I’m talking about just a friend who you touch base on almost everything that’s going in your life. If you’re happy, you call to say how happy you are, if you’re depressed they give you a shoulder to cry on and you say whatever it is without a second doubt that it will be the new news in town.

An excerpt from our said conversation went something like this:

Kawi: I find it so cool when guys have a person they call all the time when something pops up, good or bad ( that’s because she has that kind of friend and I find it cool how they do their thing, calling each other almost always, being open with each other, being there for each other and so on)

Friend: You actually don’t have someone you do that with?

Kawi: No. I just really suck at communication you know the frequent texting or calling, am not that open…

Friend: Like seriously O_O so who do you talk to?

Kawi: No one really, myself. I have friends for different things, mostly happy things. But no one I share with the whole package.

Friend: Gosh, as in no one. (then she thinks and goes like) But you’re close to your boyfriend…lol

Kawi: Well, yeah I guess. Actually he’s the one who gets the fair part of what goes on in my life.

Friend: It’s nice to have someone to tell stuff, of course other than your boyfriend, I mean a girlfriend who understands you and would be there for you through it all.

Kawi: … (conversation continues on to other things)…

Well, haven’t found someone who I’d feel comfortable going all “this is what’s going on with me at the moment” with or so I think. It all happens in my head where I try to sort it out all by myself with no one else’s advice or explanations, it’s easier. But then I got thinking, crap, maybe just maybe, you actually need someone like that. One could go crazy when you keep all things to yourself, you know, like having conversations with yourself crazy. Problem is that today coming across someone who’s genuinely nice and wants good things for you, you know, someone you can trust, at least try be open with, understand you and vice versa without looking at you from the sidelines is not quite an easy one. Maybe am way past that age of acquiring such a friend or maybe I have but am still too skeptical or not to sure how to go about it? Yeah, laugh at me, am also thinking it kind of sounds funny, but really.

Do you have a friend like that? Do you think it’s too late to get one that kind? When did you find your best friend(s) or what was the differentiating factor from the rest of your friends?

A friend accepts us as we are yet helps us to be what we should.

If you have answers to all these, you need to tell-a-tale to some of us. Maybe we can learn a thing two. If you don’t, we still have hope right? At least we’ve realized there’s a void, good start. Super day comrades!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Who’s Your Cheerleader?

Life is fragile. It could be like this one day and the next day it flips a coin and becomes something else. Like when a hobo hits the jack pot or Richie rich is declared bankrupt or you sleep well and wake up with a bad ass flu or slip and break a bone or two. What keeps everything together is you. Basically, its all about you, it always is. All the things you do, deep within it’s for your fulfillment. It’s all about what you feel, what you think and what you want (and not necessarily need, because you’ll somehow make sure get what you really need or a way to get around it).

When an egg breaks by an outside force, a life ends.
When an egg breaks by an inside force, a life begins.
Similarly, great things always begin from within!

It takes a little more to make a champion of course, but it takes a lot more to make a cheerleader. It’s not everyday that you’ll find yourself cheering yourself on. In all honesty, there are some situations that it takes more than other people to come to your aid. Such that even if the external force like in the case of the egg comes to your rescue they could crack you up (not in the “haha funny” kind of way, but in the “get out of my life” kind of way) and leave you more messed up than you actually were.

But if it’s something that comes from within, you are able to think it, analyse it and apply it. It could be a slow process, but the fact that it’s stemming out from you makes the difference. No one can internalize something for you, no one can give you the “you can do it” or “it’s going to be okay” mentality more than you can do yourself. In not so many words, you are supposed to be your own cheer leader.

Your life is the only place you’re both the player in the play-field and the cheerleader on the sidelines. It’s the cheerleaders who give the players the psyche for the game, they are sometimes even the ones who bring some spirit to the game.

The next time you think you don’t have cheerleaders in your life or someone asks you “who’s your cheerleader”? (woe unto you if you almost thought it’s who’s your daddy). Most of us are blessed to have families, partners and friends as your top cheerleaders, but no one beats you being your own. Because when other people don’t have hope in you at one point or another, you can have hope in yourself and that’s what makes you take the next leap on to greater things. Plus what are the chances of disappointing yourself, unless you don’t really like yourself. You should go out of your way to be there for yourself.

So if you’re going through something, I know it’s easier to say than do and I’m probably not in your shoes because am not you and you’re not in mine either, but you’re your best cheerleader. You’re the one who’ll cheer yourself while you’re in the play-field hustling and trying to make ends meet. Others will play with you, cheer with you but the MVP at the end of the day should be you. Not your friends, not your family, not your partner. They are your support system, your team and they’ll definitely help you defend and attack … Yikes! Did I just go the football way, the influence meeh! But you get what I mean. yes?

Sign Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Seekers…Keepers

It’s one thing to know what you want or need,  it’s another to get it and another one to create room for those things once you get them because you eventually do. Problem is that if it’s not self-driven and by that I mean envision it, yearn for it or there’s nothing you’ve had to give up for it, you’ll feel short-changed. The satisfaction derived from that whole process should make you feel like you’re on some spaceship headed to the blue moon okay I just exaggerated but you feel me.

Well that’s just once in a blue moon, most of the times we get things that we thought we didn’t want or need or we actually wanted just had thought of them in a more *castle in the air* kind of way and they drive you off your tangent. That right there is what we call experience, because it’s usually an instance that comes and goes but leaves you some few lessons to learn from.

You have to go through a series of instances to actually figure yourself out first. Pretty sure it’s something we have all experienced in one way or another. For some not in the easiest of ways, for others things have come pretty easy it’s like you had it all aligned it for you. All the same, I think it’s always worth the experience, makes you appreciate what you get even more.

I have been through a couple of experiences myself, in work, at school, in relationships of different kinds … it’s just amazing. I know there’s someone out there thinking, amazing? *pops eyes* are you kidding me? Yeah, I guess that’s how I take it in. Maybe that’s why I’m still sane or that’s why you would see me smiling when I should be hitting the roof as I try to contain my hulk. Trust me we all have a hulk in us, or is this the point where I use singular terms like “I”, I have some hulk a.k.a Meru in me.

Sometimes you get yourself somewhere not because it’s the wrong place at that point time, it’s just a stepping stone to the next level. The next level of taking you towards where you want to be. That situation could be grooming you for what life has in store for you. That’s why I say it’s pretty interesting. Think of it that way and you could be somewhat comfortable with your situation. You know the beauty of it is that, lets assume something goes wrong at one point, you will be sad but it won’t last forever. We are all bound to experience different emotions at different time. Both the good and the bad. Sadness, disappointments, bitterness, is just but a part of them, so is bliss, joy, gratefulness and so on. I tend to think they do take turns, because nothing is perfect, no one is from the human perspective. So at one point you’re on a high, the next you’re at a low (you’ve got to know how to chase this one away once it checks in … low is not a sport, never quite looks good on you).

 

Point is, knowing what you want, better yet identifying what you need. An important aspect of this is that it lets you know what to keep and what to let go of (people, a character you hold, something material, it could be anything). What you keep can sometimes be what deters you from getting…no? Then again, you could get what you want but it’s not necessarily what you need or you could get what you need but not what you want…lol talk of life getting it all twisted, that’s its nature though. So lucky are you when you get what you want and need. It’s a plus knowing it, because it gets you to treasure what you’ve got more, work hard for it because you know its importance and make sure that it’s for keeps. Everything does count, it contributes to who you are, what you’re yet to be and last but not least what and who is linked to you.

In other non-related news,  the music I’ve been listening to these days. Who knew there was country gospel … pop’ish kinda music? She’s good, Jamie Grace (one song at a time album) on replay, so soulful!

Just saw this on my friends update and thought to share since sharing is caring and seeing as I haven’t fed your minds in a while, these ones looks like some great lessons to adopt:

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Marry a man or woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
3. When you say “I Love you” mean it.
4. When you wrong someone, look at them in the eye and say “I’m sorry”.
5. Love deeply and passionately. You may get hurt,but its the only way to live life completely.
6. Talk slowly but think quickly.
7. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
8. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
9. Remember the 3 Rs: Respect for self, Respect Others, Responsibility for all your actions.
10. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
11. Spend some time alone.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Never Meant To Be

There’s something called ‘accepting and moving on swiftly’. Yes, sometimes you have to create motto’s for yourself to abide by or you’ll forever be caught in situations that leave your heart frustrated but in essence they are completely out of your control. There’s just nothing you can do, if it’s not meant to be, it’s just not meant to be. There’s no better way to sugar coat it.

Credits

Think of it like we are puppets and there’s the puppeteer. Up there the puppeteer manipulates the objects with the bars and strings. Then for this two objects (the puppets), there’s that one bar that totally keeps the them apart so no matter what they do to come together, the efforts are futile. Oh tell me you have not experienced this and you must either be a lucky one or there’s something wrong somewhere.

You know how you meet someone and you hit it off from the beginning. Much to talk about, much in common and all those mush things. I mean, you even end up really liking the person and get ideas. But there’s a problem, in as much all this looks and feels amazing there’s something missing. Well, I don’t know what because at that particular time, you’re thinking it’s something that could actually work out. At the same time, there’s that one thing or two that as small as they seem makes you think nah, let’s give it time and see.

As you give it time and try to work against those odds of being together, you just don’t seem to understand each other at a certain point. It just doesn’t work out because there’s always something going wrong, someone trying too hard, it could be from one side or from both. It’s like the puppeteer is trying to give you signs but you’re trying your best to ignore them. The more you try to be together, the more apart you get for some strange reason. Yes, it’s that bar not the place, but the object that’s keeping you apart. Maybe nothing about you is actually compatible like you thought. You’re just working with feelings and the bar is acting as the middle man trying to prevent you from getting yourself into trouble, from heart aches and other related issues.

I know right, that’s how it makes sense best. Sometimes you just need to obey nature. If it clearly shows you something won’t work and your gut feeling to some extent tells you the same, as difficult as it may seem, listen and obey. I mean even magnets don’t attract everything you know, if anything ” like poles repel and unlike poles attract each other”. Thank God for the options of friends, that’s one of the ways you get friend zoned. Plus I don’t think it’s malice or anything, friendship is a good thing and you know as a person, you can’t be emotionally attached to everyone, it’s only reserved for one person really. So as you can see, the friend zone is not such a bad zone after all. At least you’re indirectly or directly involved in someones life anyway.

The problem with people is when they take this the wrong way and you become enemies, which in my case doesn’t cut it, actually, I would find that lame. If your live by certain codes then ‘it’s never that serious’ does really make a lot of sense. If it’s not working out, just be a normal friends and lead a normal life…the phrase ‘it’s easier said than done’, doesn’t work here because it’s actually easier said and done as well. Did you know keeping enemies is a task all together? It’s actually much easier to keep a friend than to keep an enemy, because with enemies you have to pretend so much. No talking, no smiling, no jokes, no laughter, loads of tension…yikes too much! It’s never that serious.

Oi it’s mid week … a few days to Friday, keep strong! Have a productive week and strive to do something awesome, blessings!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Like You? Would You?

 

Has this ever crossed your mind -> What if you were told to go on a date with yourself? Do you think you would like you? Would you enjoy your company or would you feel like forcing a fork down your throat because of how bored you’ll get. Maybe it’s about time you experienced what your friends have to go through *evil grin*

Test it and see how that goes. You know the full cuppa hot chocolate since I’m not a tea fan, with cookies and an imaginary you. Okay, that sounds cray but hey how else will you do it. It’s not every day that people are going to be there for you, you know the ones that you think that will always be there. I mean they also have their stuff going on.

So you should be able to be there for yourself and not pity yourself when people those people you count on are not there? For whatever reasons you have to learn this things the hard way, pretty sure it’s happened to you one time or another. It’s happened to me a dozen of times. The times you expect people to be there it could be on your birthday, when you’re going through ish or you’re just happy and you want to share … they could also be all up in their business too and guess who’s left to be there for you? YOU.

You have to find the joy inside of yourself. Make your self laugh, dress up, be able to just chill out, reflect, be in touch with yourself, know how to love you. Basically be there for yourself. For only then, will you be able to know how to be there for others and it’s importance. Difficult as it seems, yes it is, it’s much fun or so it seems when you have someone or people there to help you out, to chill with, have a good laugh with but what if they are not there. Sulk? Be sad? No! Be happy and go on as usual!

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~  Lucille Ball

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Dandy December

Have you ever had an picture but you don’t have a story, or maybe you have a story but you don’t know how to put it down, but you still want to have it up. Oh well, that’s me today. I have had this picture for the longest time and I’ve always wondered how to use it. So it’s being lying in my blog pics folder and I just keep wondering, “Picture, I really want to use you … but how, when, at least I know where”

November was that month for me that can be best described by the royal tears. Funny enough as mentioned earlier, I’m a natural crier … lol but this month anything that got me anywhere close to crying would get a “really?”, or “No ,you’re not!” or “Not now”. From the loss of my uncle, to ‘minor’ heart breaks, too much to handle, home-sickness, loneliness, boredom, just because.

All in all, if there’s one thing about me, is that I’m an optimist. There’s always a reason for everything including those stupid decision made in one case or another which I think everyone does. What matters is what lessons you learn at the end of them all. However, the most important is not to forget to thank God for the blessings too, because failure to see those, you don’t see the beauty of life.

November Lessons 

• Life is short. It doesn’t matter how old you are, the impact is still the same.
• Open your eyes, use your brains and protect your heart.
• Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people actually care, the rest are just curious.
• It could have been worse
• Learn from every mistake and think about it over and over, so that the next time you’re about to repeat it, you feel stupid.
• If you fall and stumble, don’t let it get you. Let it be your inspiration.
• There are friends for a reason, a season and a lifetime. Accept that and move on or move in.
• If you’re not supposed to be in it, then it won’t work out. I think it’s the way of the universe giving you hints.
• Whatever you do, if it comes from your heart, then all is good. If it fails, chances are that you won’t regret it.
• Actions speak louder than words.
• Life is what you make of it, smile with the world it smiles back at you … frown at it, it will most definitely frown back at you.
• Whatever happens to you, just know you’re not the first nor the last. It always gets better eventually. I don’t know how but somehow it does.
• Lastly,

November Blessings

• Life and life in abundance – Good health, beautiful person in and out.
• My family is my number one supporter.
• Awesome friends, who are there for you, who think of you, who check up on you.
• People who think the world of you.
• I’m able to juggle work and school, it’s crazy I say.
• Fun photo-shoot ( here and here ), fun coast trip.  Plus it had been a while since I swam, that was a blissful moment, should do it more often.
• I enjoy what I do … makes waking up in the morning much easier.
• Awesome colleagues.
• Good music – for what would we do without music? It speaks to me. When no one else knows what to say when to say, music does.
• The ability to express myself in writing.
• For being me … I’m social, smiley, loving and I pray nothing changes who I am. It makes everything much much easy.

December is here

So let’s see … December, December, December. It’s come along so fast … jeez! I ain’t complaining, but you know it’s the indicator that the year has come to an end. Any how, it’s also that month that comes with goodies and fun times. Plus at least 3/4 of the people are usually happy, in a holiday and party mood including our bosses *wink*.

Now since it’s finally here, I might as well get into the December program, though I technically don’t have one. What’s with everyone asking what I have planned for Christmas? Am I the only one who never has anything planned? Other than being at home of course, its standard procedure … tihihi

I love that the month is fresh … feels like I’m letting out my spanking new self and here goes my ↓

December Expectation

• Be much smarter – I think the year has had enough lessons on me, now it’s about time I gave back the lessons learnt.
• Finish my exams – Oh my I can’t wait. Still getting used to the whole “Back To School” set up.
• Have fun fun fun – That’s the standard procedure for December, wherever I am, whatever I do … just make sure it’s fun even if it’s sleeping.
• Be a bit random, crash parties, visit people and places, basically ↑
• Make my family and friends happy, have a laugh , catch up – It’s goodie goodie month. Oh, the excitement.

Quote of the day

Someday is why we never say never. It’s the reason we never give up, the reason we never give in. It’s a place in our hearts that can’t be broken, where our dreams always come true and the moment we’ll never let go ~ Justin Bieber

To a Dandy December full of laughter and lots of love! Just the way it’s supposed to be. God Bless Ya’ll … xo!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Yes, I’m a Girl

So I was doing my blog whoring here and there. Sometimes I just follow links from one blog to another looking for interesting reads. Some which I can relate to, others I can learn from, others I can critic but not loudly, others make me laugh and I’m sure to bookmark them. I am easy to please, so some become my favorites and every now and then I go back.

There’s this poem like thing going round the internet, “Yes, I’m a girl”. Actually saw it at this blog and later in some fan pages. It totally got me, because from the 1st to last, that’s so me.

Yes, I’m a girl.

I push doors that clearly say pull.

I laugh harder when I try to explain why i’m laughing.

I walk into a room and forget why I was there.

I count on my fingers in maths.

I hide the pain from my loved ones.

I say it is a long story when it’s really not.

I cry a lot more than you think I do.

I try to do things before the microwave beeps.

I listen to you when you don’t listen to me.

And a hug will always help.

Yes, I am a girl

Then after reading, of course I felt like adding others in as much as I thought what’s said basically sums it all up … but being a girl, there’s always much more … lol

Yes, I’m a girl

I ask why even when I know the reason

I say “it’s okay” when it’s really not okay

I say give me a minute when I actually mean 15 minutes or more

I stare at my wardrobe for ages before deciding what to wear

I blubber when excited and keep quiet when sad

I think and act with my heart

My brain comes into play when it’s a bit too late

I say I don’t know when I actually know

The smallest of things get to me

I can go from normal to not so normal in a few seconds

I read manuals because I’m clueless

I wait for you to call me or text me first

I keep checking my phone or waiting for a beep once I click ‘send’

I hide behind my colors

If I forget, it was not out of choice

Sometimes I don’t say what I mean, but I mean what I say it’s supposed to confuse you

I have a lot running through my head

I cannot capture my thoughts in a simple sentence

Sometimes just a hug and a smiley face will do

Love makes my world go round

Yes, I’m a girl

Quote of the day

Hope the week is fairing well? Don’t forget to give thanks for the blessings seen and unseen.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Of Signs, Love and Life

Random thought : Do you ever think that God sometimes has some serious laughing moments when he listens to our thoughts?

Now, now, now where to begin! This is one of those posts I have been wanting to write for the longest time but I never know exactly how to. I know you’re probably wondering why, well, that’s because it’s about life, love and the irky relationships. If you’ve read my post before, you probably know that I’m one of those people who’s big on relationships and love, but umm not any more.

I have just come to the conclusion that I don’t understand the whole concept of relationships and chances are that I was probably not cut out for it, but since I most definitely don’t want to be a nun or celibate, I will need to figure it out some day *read sooner than later*. You know how sometimes you want to try figure yourself out without having to ask others, yeah, that’s was an epiphany I had, now that sometimes my mind is usually on an overdrive.

Ever heard of the zodiac signs?

The signs of the Zodiac can give us great insights into our day to day living as well as the many talents and special qualities we posses where you can discover a great deal of relevant information about yourself, get to know things like why you are so attached to your possessions or why you are so emotional and so on.

You can also learn as much as you can about the traits of the different sun signs and make your life flow smoother because you understand the motives behind Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra , Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces. In case you didn’t know there are 12 of them.

The funniest thing is that I used to think that these zodiac signs are the most stupid things ever. Until I grew up I got myself reading through my dear zodiac sign, Aquarius! And 3/4 if not all the things I was reading I was left in awe because that’s so me, I was like this O_O the whole time. Of course there’s those one or two things where I’m a bit different thanks to factors such as family, background, experience and so on. Then I started reading others peoples signs and I’m like, “Jeez! If I had read this stuff before”. Then I would know what I am getting myself into when dating or befriending some people and maybe it would’ve been much much easier than it was.

And the more I read them, the more I’m like how do people with such different traits even manage to be together … It’s just depressing. You know how a person whose a loner “ingoing” dates someone who’s outgoing … And the loner wants time to themselves and this other one wants to hang out with the loner (of course it would end up being annoying for both) or if it’s two loners then they’ll stay apart because they all want to be alone, if it’s two outgoing guys then there’s going to definitely be something wrong somewhere because there needs to be one who’s a bit relaxed (I’m just guessing) … see why I say I don’t get this! This is just one very random complex example.

Hahaha *evil grin* So of late I’ve been asking my friends their birthday dates or for the ones that I know, I have checked out some of their traits from the zodiac signs and guess what … some are totally matching *scary huh* but what’s better than having an idea of what you should be expecting from people? Maybe it will make disappointment easier to handle, or at least you will know what it is about them that’s going to disappoint you or make you happy and if your traits and theirs can at least get along and if not, what you need to do to compromise like be more persistent, more patient and stuff like that.

Anyway since I can’t keep running away forever, I’ll have to learn how to deal with the “completely opposite to me” people, dealing with disappointments. Considering I also have flaws, as much as I’m running from certain disappointments, I could also be a disappointment to someone … tihihi! I don’t want to grow old and alone, that’s pretty boring so can this fairy tales we used to watch when we were young just happen … Kiss a frog and it turns into a prince or the knight in shinning armor comes to save this damsel in distress. If wishes were horses, clearly weaves would be non-existent and they definitely aren’t *snaps back to reality*.

QUOTES OF THE DAY  got to be a bit positive you know :p 

“Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change.”

“We think there is always a tomorrow, so why expose our feelings today? Why risk being vulnerable? Why take the chance? Because today, what we love, what we feel, what is real, is what we have. Tomorrow, it may all change.”

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Girlfriends *Irreplaceable*

When we were kids, and anti-boys we would have girl cliques, girl sports, girl stuff going on but as we grow older and older, it all starts to fade … we get boyfriends and new friends (who are mostly boys) … and somehow we all go separate ways. No meeting, no pep talk chats , no small girl cliques, no being there for each other, no more stupid stunts … the boys take more priority in our lives.

I am not excluding myself from this category because I’m one of those girls who’ve done that. Truth be told I learnt my lessons the hard way, but I’m glad I did. Boyfriends are IMPORTANT, I love mine and they can be your everything but really not EVERYTHING, there’s that thing he doesn’t have * HE’S NOT A GIRL*. From my experience, the thing I always said to myself, “Kawi, never disown your friends because of your boyfriend”. The best way to do that, was to make an introduction, and make him meet them so that they can also be friends (thank God it wasn’t so hard, because he’s the friendly kind), then he would appreciate and be okay when I’m with them because they’re an important part of my life.

For my girlfriends,

There are those girly stupid things you want to do but you cannot do them alone and you cannot drag your boyfriend to do, that’s just unfair and today I just want to say, “I thank God for My Girlfriends.”

I might not be the first person they call when they have something going on *good or bad*, maybe they don’t even remember I exist at that moment, but at least when I join them, I feel like the thing I was missing has been found, and it just feels good to be with them. And during this weekend, is when it got me thinking, that honestly, I’m gonna be there for my girlfriends when they need me or at least I will always try to.

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You will meet up for coffee, lunch, dinner and you will start off where you left off … it’s like you’ve always been there, there’s no awkwardness of any sort, no shyness, no pretending … you are just happy and just you.

With men, there’s that awkwardness … there’s the I need to pull myself together, what am I going to wear, how do I look, what do I say … I hope it doesn’t go wrong … yaddi-yadda vibes.

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They will cry with you when you are going through a terrible time or at least they’ll sympathize with you and tell you it’s going to be alright because they have experienced the same, if not going through the same thing — Girls are the ones who help you out of a situation, they are the ones who talk some sense into you…which if a guy tried, he will know better not to…lol

“A good friend is cheaper than therapy”  ~Author Unknown

Cry in front of a guy and he’ll be embarrassed and confused … get yourself together maen! Sympathy … ummm men? *say something*, talk sense … by the time you’re reaching there chances are that you will be considered to be whining a bit too much.

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They will love you for who you are, even if you’re bitchy or being a bum, they will tell you, you are bitching and being a bum, and feel like there’s no love lost.

“You can always tell a real friend:  when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job”  ~Laurence J. Peter

Mr.man try tell a girl she’s being bitchy *OK, don’t try, unless you want your eye gorged out*

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If you’ve gained weight or lost weight they’ll be open with you  … “Chic, you’ve gained so much weight, what are you feeding?” … sounds quite simple, wait until a man says it … hehe

“Cherish the friend who tells you a harsh truth, wanting ten times more to tell you a loving lie”  ~Robert Brault,

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They always have 411 about everything and in detail … so you can sit for hours, talking about who’s doing what, going where, seeing who, doing who … lol, but really, I wouldn’t call that gossip, it’s just updating our databases, of what going on everywhere.

It just looks bad on a guy going on and on about irrelevant stuff *read very relevant to us*

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Going for shopping … you can drag a girlfriend through the whole market or mall looking for something that you will eventually not get and you will get everything that you had intended not to get and you know what? That’s no big deal, because she gets you, because she has probably done the same.

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Men and shopping … that’s synonymous to torture unless you have identified something you are going to collect it and pay … otherwise it’s not going to go down so well. You’ll either end up arguing or buying something just to avoid the look :p

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You can do sleep overs … sit, drink, watch movies, beautify thy selves (nails and what not), chat in between movies (that guy is hot, this one is … bleh, bleh, bleh) and it’s fun and mostly theraputic.

haha you wish … No, I’m not describing a sleep-over at a guys house.

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They will give you all the psyche you need to go for parties, make you dance like a mad woman … even if you had loudly and clearly declared how much you don’t want to party or you’re tired… they know how to get to your nerves the right way.

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit”  ~Albert Schweitzer

You’re tired and you don’t want to party … ” okay, you can stay at home, then I’ll go out, have fun and I’ll find you here” … that’s a guy for you. He just got to your nerves the wrong way.

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When they see that you need them, even if without saying, they will come running to make sure you’re handling it alright. They see you and they know something’s not right and they try to make it right.

“If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do.  Think up something appropriate and do it” ~Edgar Watson Howe

Well, I can’t say men don’t, they do, if you have a connection, they will notice and do something about it. Otherwise, you will have to tell them what you want and how you want it, or you’ll just have to dream on.

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Those are the friends I have so far … and that’s why I thank God for them, I have learned a lot from them; I have learnt to be reliable, available, trustworthy, imaginative, quick to grasp stuff, capture inside jokes, keep time #iTry and most of all, have so much love!

I won’t name and shame them, because even if I do, not all of them read my blog :p *lame excuse* but if you read you’ll just know. I have girlfriends from everywhere, at least you’re one if I meet with we start off from where we left off. Some old, some new … but all together, I appreciate you all, and I really thank God for you, and may you all find all the happiness and be full of love to spread and share to all those who need it.

TO THE MEN —> We women, cannot do without you, you make life beautiful and thank you for being there … We thank God for you too and may you have all the love, so that you can love us girls to bits and treat us like the princesses we are. But on that note, don’t deny your girlfriends time with their girlfriends … they are IMPORTANT too. Fair?

It’s weird how, “Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn’t seem to crack.  Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces”  ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh , just read the quote and figured that is so true … hehe men are lucky bastards (in a good way though, if you know what I mean.)

QUOTE OF THE DAY

“A good friend is a connection to life – a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world” ~Lois Wyse

“The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends” ~ Gwyneth Paltrow

Signing Off  ~~~ *Kawi*

Negative Vybe = Negative Energy

I had a lovely weeked, you know the kind where you are here, there and everywhere. So in the midst of my all my escapades of the weekend, I met a couple of old friends and you know it’s all excitement as I haven’t seen them in a long while. So chatting up and laughing about stuff. I enjoy meeting people, i mean am a chatter box when opportunity presents itself.

Though one thing I have never done is build negative energy on someone, I always try my best to look at the good side of things, you know things could be thick and difficult, and we can talk about that, but those things can have something positive that can make you feel better.

Anyway for the first time ever, I felt like am a dart board, and my heart was the one being aimed at. Like the heart piercing kind.

You know when people talking about something that affects you directly, and as much as it sounds true or not you don’t have a say, like you just shuush and listen as they toss your “life story” like a ball, everyone has an opinion and they don’t spare any bit. I mean you can’t contribute because it sounds partly like advice while at the same time it’s “I don’t know what it is” #confused.

So let’s just say as the conversation continued ok maybe not conversation it’s me just being told things as I wasn’t really responding, It reached a point and i’m thinking ok, stop! it’s abit to much. You know some things can be put forward as jokes and at first it feels like a joke and you laugh with them, but when it becomes an extended joke then it reaches a point it hurts. And being me,  I always try to put a brave face and laugh even when am the target. You the kind where :

Yah that was me, I was laughing and smiling and acting like what they were saying was haha funny but in the inside, I was just like I want to get the hell outta here … that feeling where the slightest opportunity to flee would be highly appreciated. Regardless of wether you will remain as the topic of discussion.

And by time I was  leaving, all I was feeling was:

At one time or another, this had to happen. It’s good to experience some things so that you can know how it feels and how you can tackle them. Because after that I just wanted to go home and sleep … I love sleep, because when you sleep everything just goes away. I had wanted to go party but I opted out, my partner in crime wasn’t amused…hehe

Every experience for me is always a learning experience, I think a lot I must say, about different things. And when I thought about this particular instance, and all i could come up with was this,

People see, hear and talk. People will tell you things you don’t want to hear, things you probably know but don’t want to get the reality of them. They will say the truth from what they have observed..oh and the truth hurts.. sometimes what they say could be out of their experiences and they are just letting you know so that you don’t make a mistake.

You just need to know how to handle all that information in a way that’s beneficial to you. I mean with all my intelligence, I should be able to “sieve chuff from good grain” — I got it….ha!

I also learnt another thing, people are very delicate creatures… I can look like am the strongest, but you don’t know what’s going inside me #emotions. And concealing them is our life’s job description.

So when dealing with something that will probably touch on someones feeling, be gentle, you can joke but don’t extend it. and when someone says stop, you stop unless your intention is to hurt them #amjustsaying. Plus drop in a line of encouragement.

“Note how good you feel after you have encouraged someone else. No other arguement is necessary to suggest that never miss the opportunity to give encouragement” – George Adams

Oh well end of the story, those my friends never encouraged me after all the negative vybe, but one other person did, thanx babe and I am grateful *wink* . Glad I have someone  I can call, rant and rave from a girls perspective. I love you @Wanjanmajid and Happy Pre Birthday (15th June), Thank God for bringing you into this world, clearly he saw I needed you..hehe

“To be a friend means encourage strengths in others and accepting their weaknesses, in other words, accepting them for who they are.” – Catherine Pulsifier — #ihatequotes

Signing Off — *Kawi*