On Biting and Chewing

When I was a kid I was a pretty poor eater, believe it or not. As much as I love food right now still a slow eater though, the most dreaded times of the day must’ve been meal times. Sure enough it wasn’t the best time for our then house-help either, because it was a battle of wills. Her putting food into my mouth by force and me reluctantly swallowing it. Day in day out, that was meal time for us. Sometimes she would use some frightening tactics to get me to swallow the food in my mouth and take another bite. It was crazy I tell you, now that I think of it.

Sometimes, I would not swallow the food and the help would just add another spoon full over the one I had, so I would have swollen cheeks and trust me it used to get tiring, so I would just own up and swallow the food all together, plus it became tasteless anyway and spitting it was a crime. finishing the food in your plate was an unwritten house rule. I can bet for most kids it was…yah? That’s my story. Ha ha we’ve come from far you see.

 

Basically I was like this squirrel here, only difference is that mine wasn’t voluntary. But we’re not kids forever, thank God. I grew up and eating became more of a voluntary activity. I would know how much my body needs, how much can fit in my mouth, what I want and don’t want to eat and knowing what’s enough.

Anyhow, what got me thinking of this little childhood tale was a little phrase that I loosely use when I am trying to regulate myself. You know when you have so much yummy food in front of you and you just want to gobble it all up but you have to take a spoon at a time. Ever been in such a situation. Oh for the love of good food, a million times. Sometimes I just serve a huge portion out of pure greed, thinking that I will eat, eat and eat.

Then mid-eating, you get really full, really full that it becomes uncomfortable. The food eventually becomes boring and the thought of it gives you the eew’s and aahh’s, do I have to really eat any more? Ever wondered why they serves small portions in hotels? Now is when it makes sense. I wonder if this is their reason though or they’re cutting through the budget…lol

That’s what life exactly does to us. Sometimes it just presents us with a buffet of food and we’re supposed to serve our plate in portions that will help satisfy us at particular meal times (meal times being the different stages of our lives). There will always be food it’s for us to know how much we want to serve, what’s enough for us and so on. Life gives us so much that we want to just take it all up without even putting some thought into it.

It all looks so edible and like you just can’t get enough of it. So we start-up with so much energy, zeal. And although it’s quite exciting and motivating as we start off, its important to keep the energy level balanced so you don’t fade halfway through, or even earlier. Sometimes we do get greedy or too enthusiastic that we end up taking on more than we might actually be willing to handle. Then with time it starts becoming overwhelming, tiring and you lose the motivation you had when you were starting up. That’s what we call, ‘biting more than we can chew‘.

It’s necessary to know how much we have on our plate, how much we can handle and what where we are willing to say, “you know for now this is enough and I’ll take up the rest a bit later”. When we are handed over a plate in our lives, of course not the real plate, this could come in the form of an opportunity, a challenge, a situation. It is important to pace ourselves.

Look at the situation logically and set realistic goals for yourself. It’s tempting to just take everything at once and try to sort it out, but there is no need to overwhelm yourself with tasks just because the moment strikes.

Set your pace. Everyone is different. What works for one person won’t necessarily work for you. How you take up a challenge is different from how someone else will take it up. You can check out how you’ve worked on previous challenges, what worked and what didn’t. Learn from your past experiences. No one beats teacher Experience. He was actually crowned the best of all times, no one has replaced him yet.

You can psychoanalyse yourself by trying to find out if  you often get motivated and take on too much too soon just because you’re excited about the prospects? Look at it logically and intentionally cut those tasks in half. No one is going to be able to set your pace but yourself because everyone runs on different energy levels.

If you do get overwhelmed and feel yourself quickly fading, take a step back and re-evaluate your priorities. Set a pace that works for you. This will leave you feeling both accomplished and reserved at the end of the day. Lighten up on yourself. Sometimes we often set our sights too high, and in turn bite off more than we can chew. After all, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, at least they didn’t say that they guy took a step and completed the a thousand miles at once, that would’ve been depressing. So it could be a slow move, but if it’s getting you somewhere, you’re definitely NOT doing it wrong.

Quote of the day

Find Your Calm … Bite off what you can chew and save the leftovers for another meal

—-> Felt like adding, it’s never that serious really. That unwritten rule that you have to finish the food on your plate. It comes a time when you don’t have to it’s healthier to stop when you feel full, store the left overs well and take them up once the other food has been digested.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Antsy About Ants

Hey, little ant, down in that crack
Can you see me?  Can you talk back?
See my shoe, can you see that?
Well, now it’s gonna squish you flat!

A couple of times I have found myself having a Horton’s moment in my house. It’s the one thing that’s really fascinated me of late. Not that I hadn’t noticed them earlier, just that now I totally have to do something about it or I could get home and find new developments. A mid my eating stints I end up dropping some crumbs of whatever it is or forget to tighten the sugar jar at first not knowing that those actions would call for some uninvited guest … Mr and Mrs. Ant with their children and extended family. The dynamics of how they work is what just gets me staring down at them.

It could make me start a research on ants just to figure them out. There’s a day I think I watched them for close to 10mins as they tried to transport a crumb from source *where the crumb was* to destination *I don’t know where*. Busy as they go on about their business even if they’re trespassing someone else’s ground. Times I wave or put a shadow over them just to see if they’ll be scared off like other insects but no, not this tiny creatures. Unless they are blind or are just too focused on the goal, I don’t get how they aren’t woo’ed off by my gigantic self.

As I was watching, they would help each other move the crumb slowly and surely, it’s like they all knew the role to play. Who stands back, who gets involved. And thanks to watching many animations,  I was even imagining them having conversation. The things I picked up is that they are tiny creatures with so much confidence. The work could look big and difficult but they just start with a little crumb and the next thing you know they have an anthill. Even when you kill some or try to interfere with their path, the rest stay put and continue doing what they were doing. They have strong senses and once they identify or spot an opportunity they work on it as a team. You would never find an ant going solo, because they know the importance of other ants.

Then there’s this other group of ants. The ones that would go round and round aimlessly, they’re not rushing for any crumbs. They are usually on a solo mission to nothing but just running around, willy-nilly … they are the ones that that got us coining that phrase “ants in my pants”.  They head in one direction, put on the brakes, then randomly change direction and double-back to end up exactly where they began. You know the kind that look busy but busy doing nothing.

Now if only we humans, could learn a little from this creatures that can make you quite antsy. The way they manage to achieve much, as little as they are and with the little that they have.

If there is any one creature tipped to take over the earth after man’s demise, it is the ant.

Definitely, I think they are the only one’s that could fit into our shoes quite well and without much struggle. There’s quite a bit to emulate from them already and they are just but mere insects (are they even insects…lol). We should never be afraid to start with the little we have, it could be money, knowledge, ability. The big things in life should not scare us of what our main goal is, no matter what happens mid way, we should be able to pick ourselves up and continue with the path to our ultimate goal. It doesn’t matter if it looks sketchy or hazy, as long as there’s something we are working towards. So that you are not uselessly collecting crumbs, in our case it would be investing whatever it is, it could be money, property, emotions for nothing or towards nothing because then it won’t all make sense. Also, you can not do it all by yourself. To build a dynasty, you need others and others need you.

A big no no for the “ants in my pants” kind. That just gets you squished flat by life (the same way we squish ants found in the wrong place) and you wouldn’t want that. Going round in circles isn’t a nice feel, because you feel lost, without direction and you get to accomplish nothing at any given time.

Quote of the day

Never limit your learning, even when it has to come from ants Have a good evening my people!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Crunch…ch…ch Time

No, it sure ain’t me feeding on some crunchies. Now I wish I actually was, do you know those chocolates are back in the market, the ones that would stick to your teeth as you crunch on them. As I now figure out why I loved them , they used to keep my selective hyper-active self a bit busy as I try to clean my teeth with my tongue. In the same spirit, they should bring back goody goody. Yah, who’s for that? who can pull some strings? I wish I had the resources, ingredients and recipe.

T.G.I.F Sillyness

Yeah, so I’m still doing exams, hence my weekend is actually the crunch time, I’m on a handout marathon. You can see the side effects ↑, they come in different faces. Frustrating I tell you, but I’m a survivor since I dug myself a hole and got into it myself…lol. I could’ve been the good student and started reading on time and what not, so now I’m fighting my procrastination and last minute demons and boy are they powerful.

Anyway, I hope you’re having a better weekend than I am. Plus, what’s with the rain of late? It’s like the clouds have a timer, it’s sunny then all over sudden it’s pouring hippos & elephants in the afternoon (1:59pm = lunch time) and evening (4:59pm = home time). Somehow the rain makes us feels soluble, at least it makes me feel so and the traffic that follows kind of proves that we’re many who feel the same and it just binds you, you just want to stay in. I don’t fancy the cold at all, though I can recall complaining when it was too hot.

Sometimes we can really confuse God. He gives us this (the sun), then we think nah, maybe this (the cold) or that (the rain) would be better. Then when he gives us the alternatives and we just can’t keep up with them we’re like you know what, I like what I had before (the sun) . Personally, I’d rather be heated up by the scorching sun, at least then I can wear my vests, sandals, sun-dresses *cough*, the roads are dry, I can take my walks with no worry of puddles and second showers by the roadside, no wet clothes/shoes, less traffic, no umbrella’s and last but not least, NO COLD *brrrrr*.

Let me make you laugh though, now is when I can see the benefits of the sun, when it was there, I was really taking it for granted. I feel like apologizing and just begging it (or mother nature) to bring it back. Such is life mates, when you have something or someone at your disposal, you don’t see it’s/their importance or you see it but you take it for granted. Sometimes it happens subconsciously that we just find ourselves complaining or ranting about something that indirectly makes us happy or that if we didn’t have everything wouldn’t be so okay.

Not that we should have a huge party every-time that the sun is out (that we have whatever it is we have or want), but those small gestures of appreciation could do. You know those that imply that you know what you have, you care about it and without it things wouldn’t be okay. Chances are that when that when you do that, you feel whole like you’ve done your good deeds of the year over and over, such a fulfilling feeling. Yes, it does go a long way, feeling like you’re in the right place, that you’re needed and wanted is a priceless feeling for anyone everyone no?

It’s the little things and the much joy the bring. As I always tell me, you don’t have to do it big to prove a point. Actually those little things have so much meaning … Oh don’t get me wrong though, I didn’t say I don’t want the big things. I like how India Arie puts it out (song: Little things). You should actually listen to it, I recommend and you know my taste is good *hides*

As simple as a phone call just to make it known
That you’re gonna be a little late
Pure as a kiss on a cheek in a word
That everything will be okay

Call in the mornin’ from my little sister
Singin’ to me, “Happy Birthday”
In the quest for fortune and fame
Don’t forget about the simple things

Song of the week

And Taylor Swift has a new one that I hadn’t heard. I heart her music and how she brings out.

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

To an awesome weekend, to having fun, living, laughing and loving. Stay Safe. XO!

Signing Off ~ *Kawi*

Back to Basics

I’ve always had an issue when it comes to doing accounts, finance and any other related courses. This I will blame the first lecturer who was supposed to teach us the introduction bit of the course. This is how it was done, “By a show of hands who did business education in high school?” We had just completed our O’ Levels and had just joined college, you know the one that your parents use as a means of keeping you off the hood *read boys*. Anyway, so a couple of students actually like half the class put up their hands. I was one of the few who had done music (yeah, I did music as an elective, I always wonder what I was thinking when I was choosing it by the way). So you can imagine I had no slightest idea what accounting is all about.

So he goes ahead and says, “That’s a majority, the rest of you will learn from your friends, so we can start from chapter 3 or so…” O_O basically after that statement, I zoned off. Spent the rest of the semester complaining how I wasn’t getting a thing in Accounts, not that I was doing anything to better the situation. By the end of the semester I was still as green as the first day. I would ace other units, but this one I was a few marks shy of a 0. I’m not bad in math, if anything I’m fairly good *not toot toot’ing*. So it was a shock when we did the exam and voila … Fail! I almost got a heart attack though, you know how you think you’re smart and you just can’t fail? It doesn’t work like that.

So when I was re-sitting the paper, I just decided to actually put some serious effort and read for it. I started from page one of that Frank Wood Accounting Book. Yes page 1, considering I didn’t even know what credit and debit was (technically) and why and where they are placed on the balance sheets. As I went on reading, the more I read, the easier it became. Once I understood the introduction bit, everything else sort of became a breeze. I felt a tad bit stupid because I could have just done that in the beginning (but I didn’t). No wonder people do college before campus, you need to go through these stuff, because after that failing has never been an option. I’d rather crack my head reading even the last-minute than fail an exam. It’s too embarrassing, and I have an ego to protect (the genius one…lol).

As unimportant the beginning seems in many things in life, the ‘what is’ part of many things is what actually determines whether you know what you’re getting yourself into or not. What is it is that constitutes that thing, the definition of those things and how or when they are to be used. You will find that what you learn in the introduction stage, is what you will more or less use all through the course. The small terms that you thought to brush off are the ones that will keep popping up here and there *credit this, debit that* and if you get that bit wrong, you’ve messed up the whole solution and that’s how you fail.

That is life, it may seem difficult, you might try here, there or even do nothing then in the end you just fail. Failing is not only about getting an ‘F’ here, it could be so many other things on so many other different levels. Failing also doesn’t mean it’s the last lap and all is over and done, no, there are re-sits, which are more like second chances to prove to yourself and to others that, “errmmm that was just a misunderstanding”. To prove that you’re better than that, you’re smarter than that (in my case), that you just slipped/tripped but you can get yourself up and do something about it. Sometimes what we need is to go back to the basics because without the basics, you’re as good as nothing.

The solution to a problem, always starts from those basics, they are the ones that help you derive a formula. Actually, they are the ones that make up that formula. So if you don’t understand them, then what problem are you solving? That’s how we find ourselves stuck in the middle of something, using the wrong formula’s to solve a problem or mixing up the formulas whereby for this problem you use a formula that could be used to solve another one. Uh oh, the tangles, the getting mixed up, the confusions, the wondering why the variables are not fitting in. Solution, always go back to the basic even when you think you’re too grown up for that. You will be surprised at how things that seem to be complex are just a combination of basics.

Be young and don’t be afraid to start. Starting over is not a bad thing, if anything, it’s refreshing and you get a chance to spot what you had missed out or fix what had gone wrong because sometimes you do figure it out.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Mr. Time

I always knew time had wings

Don’t you love time. Okay, that’s a lie, 24hrs is too short for a day. The number of times I get home so exhausted and I just want to pass out, but I still want to do important things like meet up with friends (for dinner, a’cuppa tea, laughs, drinks) then still manage to do school work and slot in some time for my stuff.

For disappearing acts, it’s hard to beat what happens to the eight hours supposedly left after eight of sleep and eight of work ~ Doug Larson

Fortunately that is not the time I’m talking about. I’m talking about time…the lengthy time. You know the one that gives you an opportunity to learn, not the 24 hour meanie one. By the way given super powers, I think I will drop the flash one that I’ve always wanted, now that it’s my aim to learn to keep time and pick the time-extending one, so that I can have more time on my hands…smart move huh!

Time as limited a resource as it seems or actually is, is one of the most important things in life. Ever find yourself asking someone to give you more time or you cannot get (or have enough) time to do something or that you can only judge a situation given time. Time, time, time. It’s just happens to be all over your space and there’s no way you can evade it. The birthdays we celebrate, the friendships we form, the relationships we have, our achievements, the people we become…all in the long run, are all as a result of time. I love it when people celebrate good times. It’s also with time that some bad things happen you lose loved ones, you create fr-enemies, relationships fail, you miss out on the good things, you don’t say or do what you would’ve wanted to say or do, you don’t get or achieve what you wanted and so on.

Time talks, teaches, makes you learn, gives you more information, shows you things, give things meaning, makes you figure our what’s important what is not, what’s dominant what is not, your worth or value to people/places, it’s what tells you if you made the right or wrong choices. Basically it becomes your voice of reason when all else is probably failing. With time, you can always know where to place yourself in life’s different situations and where to place those situations in your life as well (always a two-way…like you do me, I do you kind of thing…lol). It’s just as simple to understand as that or as difficult to absorb as that.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs

In other unrelated news, I came across this song and the words that stuck to my head, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Stand a little taller. What doesn’t kill you makes a fighter. Footsteps even lighter”. Whatever you go through and you think that’s just it, as long as you’re still breathing, then it just means that you should push on with even more confidence because it means you’re a stronger than that and you’re a fighter, chances are that it will get much better with time, somehow. So don’t let anything or anyone cramp your style. And managing to dig up a smile when things don’t seem to go your way  when the world is working against you, is always a form of tense (stress…your choice) reliever. True story, just ask me

 Love, Light, Peace! I saw this somewhere and thought, “How cool, I should do it too”. So, I choose to light a candle and think of everyone sending love and thanks, I wish to send love and peace to all mankind. Wonderful Wednesday!

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Endless Needs

The number of times we feel like what we have is just not enough. Like if we were given just a bit more life would be much better or more beautiful. Yes … No? Like we are inadequate, be it in material things, what makes you up, what others offer you. Like you could have better, get better or be better. Of course if you had more than what you have now, it would be much better but what about now?

‘I don’t have’ always seems to be the most ideal response to ‘do you have’. It rolls off the tongue with so much ease it almost seems right…wrong? Why would we subject ourselves to not having when we actually have. It could not be enough, but at least you have something even if it comes in small doses.

‘I don’t have money’, ‘I don’t have clothes’, ‘I don’t have time’, ‘I don’t have friends’, ‘I’m not loved’, ‘I’m not good enough’, ’I don’t, I’m not … ‘ I could give a whole range of example of the number of times I say this myself. Then out of the blues I figured, when I say this at least I have a shilling or two in my wallet or bank, I probably need another wardrobe to fit in my clothes, I have at least a handful of friends whom I know will be there for me, I am more than loved, I’m work in progress into the best. You have, you have so much, only thing is that it’s never going to be enough.

Point in case, the number of times I say, “I don’t have clothes, shoes, bags” O_O *frantically shaking my head*. Yes I know, some shame shame on me. When I was moving out packing all that stuff, carrying them and finally re-arranging them was a back-breaking activity. This is what I had to ask myself,  ”Really Kawria really! How many of these clothes, shoes or bags do you even wear or carry?”  Answer, ” A very small fraction. It’s from that day hence forth I was like I will stop ranting and start appreciating what I have by using it first. The number of new things I have acquired and don’t use – countless.

This could be because I don’t see what I have as enough, so even when I get more, I don’t feel like it’s still enough. However, if I learn to use what I have (like wear my variety of clothing, carry the different bags, wear the different shoes) then it would be easier to identify my needs and buy stuff that I need more, and not just accumulating the same thing (seeing as that’s not even progress in itself).

What to do now? Well, since we are humans and needs and wants are going to arise every minute, of every second let me leave that description there how about we be content with what we have, learn to appreciate it, use it and see its value. Then we will be able to create room for more, more of what we actually need and not what we think we need. This actually makes acquiring more worthwhile and even as we aim higher, we will know where we are coming from and where it is that we want to head. You won’t get overwhelmed by having more, it will actually be easier to manage it.

What about of matters of the heart? I say, appreciate whoever it is you have now (yourself, family, friends, spouses) … Love more where you can, care more where you can, always be there when you can. So that in future when you look back, you don’t say, “I could have done better than that”. At least for once you can have a chance to say, “I did the best I could”. When you do all that, whether it works out or it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, then don’t regret it because at that particular moment you put your best foot forward and it made you happy.

Now, ‘if saying was as simple as doing’ … lol. I’m pretty sure that’s what in your head right about now, but what’s impossible really? This sure ain’t one of the impossibilities so it can’t be an excuse.

Mellow Monday … yeah even the weather calls for it. Smile at someone today and make their week a bit better, be that sunshine for them. Have an awesome week ahead.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

The Red Light

Now, I have the perfect answer to “What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?”. I won’t have to go digging deep to look for something that would sound crazy. It’s part of growing up and I am just thankful that it wasn’t as bad, it could have been worse. Now, I can laugh about it, but that was a scary move I made. Getting involved in a party brawl that I have no idea how it started or what ensued. So don’t joke with me or I’ll punch you in the face *just kidding*.

That was my red light. Looks like I’m having a phase of *experience, learn and decide*. If that’s what growing up is about, then clearly I have done much of it lately. If it’s not this then it’s that. I would love to complain and think all this is too much, but I take it in stride and I’m like, if I didn’t go through this then I wouldn’t know. Actually, I’m very thankful that the experiences have come in moderation,  you know getting that opportunity of thinking about what’s going on or what it is I’m doing, how it’s impacting my life. I’m glad I able to do that, it’s like a 2nd chance of sorts and it’s for me to decide whether to take that up or not. What I got that from this experience in particular was,

” If it’s not good for you, if it’s causing more harm than good, then it’s time you stopped especially if you can do without it”. ~ Kawi

Growing up is never easy. You hold on to things that were, you wonder what’s to come. However,  it comes a time, you just know it’s time to let go of what had been, and look ahead to what would be. Other days. New days. Days to come. The thing is, we don’t have to hate each other for getting older. We just had to forgive ourselves for growing up.

“When you’re growing up your mother says, ‘Wear rubbers or you’ll catch cold.’ When you become an adult you discover that you have the right not to wear rubbers and to see if you catch cold or not. It’s something like that.” ~ Diane Arbus

Thankful Thursdays, don’t forget to say a small thank you today. Apparently, they say gratitude is the essence of good mental health and spirituality. Now you have every reason to … yah. Have an awesome day my people’s.

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Nostalgia Is …

Remembering how my dad would baby sit us. Well I’m 8 years older than my baby sister so technically I’m the “BOSS” he he. I am the one who baby sitted my baby sister most of the time, just think lots of singing. Considering I can’t sing to save my life, I now think that’s why she used to laugh all the time *face palm*. I don’t even know what has driven me to back in time. When my mum was a nurse (actually she still is) only more managerial hehe so no night shifts and what not. Then, she used to do night shifts, so you can imagine what every one dreads, like baby crying at night, needing to be fed, diapers changed, to be lulled to sleep … yeah, my pops was a master of that. And he would still go to work the following day. I think he enjoyed every bit of it, I could feel it don’t burst my bubble…lol. At least at no point has mum ever told me he complained and she’s a chatter box like me.

My best part of all this is when he would lie on the couch and make me a small space when he folds his legs, and I would call it my small house. We would watch news together in as much as I was totally clueless on what was going on and just stare at the images, but what I enjoyed the most was the small house.

Then a couple of times, circumstances such as mid day snacks on weekends when some hunger has checked in and house-help is nowhere to be found. He would be forced to prepare a meal for us and for some reason I only remember rice and scrambled eggs. There was once he made mandazi’s with fish fillet in them, I ate so much till I got constipated … ha ha that’s a story for another day, but in summary, he had to deal with it…oi!

Anyway, I was just having a nostalgic moment. I usually have a couple of those. My dad has done (still is doing) the best job ever, and the thought of it just makes me happy that I think the world of him. He’s a bright shining example and a happy twinkling in my heart. I always pray that the man I get will be a good father to our children too. To me that’s more than a huge blessing!

It’s only when you grow up, and step back from him, or leave him for your own career and your own home – it’s only then that you can measure his greatness and fully appreciate it. Pride reinforces love ~ Margaret Truman

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

The Dilemma

The one that you’re faced with every so often, of whether to hang on or let go? The amount of baggage we carry around can be so for lack of a better word unnecessary.

Isn’t it just amazing how sometimes we go through things and the thought that crosses your mind is, “How the hell am I going to let go of this or even get over it?” Now that life has it’s up and downs, the downs as much as the ups are, are inevitable. You just never know what, when, how, where or why. They just come out of no where, you know from some place we least thought of and other times it could be from a place we knew right from the start will get us there…down.

Such is life, a beautiful struggle because in as much as we experience pain of any sort, no pain lasts forever. What you hold onto are memories which fade out. Just like a wound, what remains is a scar, which sometimes also clears off, but the pain is not physically there anymore. Good thing … bad thing with the memories, it’s you who chooses what to do with them.  Ever tried to put yourself in a place where you experience some sort of hurt or pain but you cannot even seem to remember how it felt, you can’t even begin to describe it, it’s indescribable.

• Bang your toe on some hard surface. For a split second there, the pain is beyond. A few minutes later, think about it and try imagine how painful it was and chances are that you can recall it was painful yeah, but you can’t feel it again.
• Lost love, like, something … yes it hurts at first and you question many things, go through a heart-break and so on but a few days, weeks, months, years (all depends on you) down the line, you look back and you’re like “really?” yeah, you remember it was a rough patch but you feel it no more. It now becomes a memory and you can talk about it, maybe learn from it.
• Lost or misplaced stuff anything from electronics, accessories, clothes. You’ll feel bad for a while, but then you will get a substitute or replace it and you forget how it actually felt losing whatever it is in the first place.

Not everyone or everything in life is supposed to be fought for, sometimes it’s only reasonable for us to just let go. There are some relations were not meant to mature or to be, there are some things that you have that you’re better of without and the only way for you to get off that relation is by losing whatever it is. The things you fight for are those you have passion for, those that bring benefit to you as a person or that you know was meant to be yours so regardless of the hustles or struggles and you’ll still work for it.

Then there are those you just need to close your eyes, talk to your inner self, let go and no matter how hard it seems just learn to let go of it because it either bogs you down, brings in negative feelings and is no value to you. You know, we can spend so much time and resources trying to make something that’s unworkable work while you know quite well, it won’t work from the beginning. I call it assuming some sort of super power.

Do you experience this? or is it just me…lol. The many times I have, be it with people or objects, pretty sure you have also figured this out, “it’s not rocket science” to know who or what matters to you the most, to know who or what is worth fighting for and what is worth letting go. The funny thing is that sometimes we sugar coat things and try to find the most intrinsic reasons for sticking onto something even when it’s black and white from the word go that it’s not meant to be. A dilemma of how things actually are and you would like things to be. That right there is life, and this right here, is how to handle certain things in life.

In case you were wondering how to simplify life *thank me later*

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*

Like You? Would You?

 

Has this ever crossed your mind -> What if you were told to go on a date with yourself? Do you think you would like you? Would you enjoy your company or would you feel like forcing a fork down your throat because of how bored you’ll get. Maybe it’s about time you experienced what your friends have to go through *evil grin*

Test it and see how that goes. You know the full cuppa hot chocolate since I’m not a tea fan, with cookies and an imaginary you. Okay, that sounds cray but hey how else will you do it. It’s not every day that people are going to be there for you, you know the ones that you think that will always be there. I mean they also have their stuff going on.

So you should be able to be there for yourself and not pity yourself when people those people you count on are not there? For whatever reasons you have to learn this things the hard way, pretty sure it’s happened to you one time or another. It’s happened to me a dozen of times. The times you expect people to be there it could be on your birthday, when you’re going through ish or you’re just happy and you want to share … they could also be all up in their business too and guess who’s left to be there for you? YOU.

You have to find the joy inside of yourself. Make your self laugh, dress up, be able to just chill out, reflect, be in touch with yourself, know how to love you. Basically be there for yourself. For only then, will you be able to know how to be there for others and it’s importance. Difficult as it seems, yes it is, it’s much fun or so it seems when you have someone or people there to help you out, to chill with, have a good laugh with but what if they are not there. Sulk? Be sad? No! Be happy and go on as usual!

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~  Lucille Ball

Signing Off ~~~ *Kawi*